Online Social Anxiety
While I do have in-person social anxieties, I wanted to specifically talk about online social anxiety. I understand the rationale behind the in-person stuff, but I don't get why communicating online makes me so anxious! I got this app because I know I need a place to talk out my anxiety/depression issues, but even writing this post makes me nervous! 😖 Does anyone else have these types of social anxieties?
Yeah I definitely do. I dealt with depression and self harm last year and it's left me in this state where I'm still dealing with depression and social anxiety
Hi @breakfastblend
I'm really active in the forums here for the very same reason. I get really anxious in the chatroom settings. I find it incredibly difficult to get involved (even being a listener!) so I stick to these situations.
Most definitely understand you.
I do as well! Not as much in one-on-one conversations, but more so with group chats... you're not alone hehe.
I find that what has really helped with my social anxiety is by interacting with more people, and by doing this, the nervousness gets smaller and smaller. 7 Cups of Tea is amazing because it gives you the chance to talk with more people and grow close to overcoming social anxiety by speaking with more and more people... and the listeners are very supportive and friendly.
You said it perfectly. I got the app to try and get some extra support for the hard time I'm going through yet I was too anxious to post anything until I read this. I'm glad I'm not the only one.
I get really anxious online too, unless I know people or am one on one. I am still not sure if that is a bad thing, but it does leave me feeling a bit sad at the lost opportunities to make friends
It's nice to know I'm not alone in this! :)
I live in a different country from my friends and family, so online communication is really important. Unfortunately I find it really painful and a big source of anxiety. Email is difficult, butfacebook is the worst. Whenever I log on to it to catch up with my friends lives, I am terrified that someone will see me online and try to chat with me.
My inability to stay connected to my friends and family has left we with guilt and depression.
@breakfastblend,
Online is easier for me and most people. But I do have Online Social anxiety. Talking to a person is okay, talking in a group setting such as chat rooms is a problem for me most often than not. I get very anxious when I notice any kind of neglect or see people talk to each other and feel unable to get involved.
I can talk to people in person if i dontcare about them. LIke at work i would talk to hundreds of people a week without much issue. But, if i see a person i want to talk to i get too nervous. I stutter, shake, my heart races, and i just dont talk to them in the end because its too much.
The same thing happens online as well. I cant talk to someone if im interested in knowing them. I made a facebook to try to talk to some people i knew from school, but then im too nervous to message them. I see people ive met different places and i just dontadd them because im afraid they will just laugh at me or worse just ignore my friend request.
If i do get the courage to talk to someone and they seem to be okay with talking to me it gets even worse. I keep thinking how im going to mess it up and even after 2 years of knowing someone im still afraid they dont like me and its some kind of game to them. They are just waiting for the perfect time to hurt me. Just when I finally trust them they will do whatever will hurt me the most at the time.
Its lead to me being lonely and depressed which makes it harder to talk to people. Why would they want to be my friend? Imjust a loser. If people wanted to be friends with losers then i wouldnt be in this situation to begin with.
Try talking to animals :) they hardly (or never) betray your loyalty to them. Large breeds of any species are more loyal, understanding and patient. Hope things go well for you, and you find peace and calm within yourself.
Forgiveness is giving up all hope of a better past!!! Forgive, accept, love yourself!!!