im so stupid
just wondering ifi amthe only in here who gets so anxious about talking to other people that even trying to start an anonymousechat with a listener gets my heart beating faster, and theni usually chicken out.
I've always been able to to do forum posts for some reason though
Exactly the same situation!
Wow, I meant for this to be a reply, sigh
I feel exactly the same
Yeah, I'm getting better at it though. Group chats are somewhat easier for me, and I think that's because all the attention isn't focused on me. Still, sometimes when people don't respond to me on group support, I get the anxious thoughts again.
I literally found this website around an hour or so ago and have already begun to chicken out of the live listener chat. I find it extremely difficult to talk in public, in private, on the phone, via e-mail, via text, via text chat (e.g. facebook) and the Idea of talking to a listener is terrifying however using a forum doesn't seem to phase me for some reason. It is a really strange phenomenon.
I literally found this website around an hour or so ago and have already begun to chicken out of the live listener chat. I find it extremely difficult to talk in public, in private, on the phone, via e-mail, via text, via text chat (e.g. facebook) and the Idea of talking to a listener is terrifying however using a forum doesn't seem to phase me for some reason. It is a really strange phenomenon.
Im not alone! Other people are like me, which is somewhat of a relief. But having social anxiety in college is really difficult. Its the weekend and while everyone is relaxing and getting ready to have fun, I am having anxiety attacks about being alone. My inability to make friends is all I think about throughout the day. Anxiety is effecting my schoolwork too. I isolate myself from other people on campus because I always assume Im not worth their time or they dont like me or wish I wasnt there. Im just so tired of living my life this way, but I cant seem to shake it.
I know what you mean. I have huge anxiety. I take online college courses just to avoid going up to campus as much as possible.. My career counselor told me that is hurting me more than helping me as a college student. It sucks. I've grown more confidence and have taken a huge step to take on campus courses next semester. Having social anxiety is horrible. I can't go to restaurants or try new things. I literally need someone shielding me or standing in front of me! I have zero confidence. I walk into a room and freeze. Get so nervous.
I know how you feel. I've actually logged on to 7 Cups as a guest a few times in the past as myself when I was feeling anxious, and I also was afraid of having an anonymous chat with a listener. I think one thing that comes with being anxious is that we realize the person on the other end of the chat is an actual human being as well with real thoughts and real emotions, and maybe we're scared that they may judge us or don't like us. That's always what bothered me, anyway :p.
But it's definitely not stupid to feel this way at all. It's normal. And the best thing is that the listeners here on 7cups are less likely to judge you because they've a.) been through similar experiences, b.) have friends or family who have, or c.) are just friendly people.
Me too! It's hard to start a conversation because I get so anxious and start to wonder am I feeling bad enough to bother them....
"am I feeling bad enough to bother them" - that is exactly how I feel.
It helped me to be honest about that feeling with the listeners - they will reassure you that they are there for you, and that you are not being a bother.
Remember that listeners are hear to listen to you. You are not a bother or a bore, they've signed up or signed in to willingly listen to your problems :).. So don't be afraid.
The only part I find worrying, as i said, is actually specifically choosing someone, but then I again they're online for a reason, to listen to us.. sooo I shouldnt be worried but it is a little bit
Knowing that you are going to talk to someone, with the intentions to tell them your problems, worries or stresses is bound to make anybody anxious.
The fact you just did the part where you got in the que is a step and very corageous!!
~Elfen
