i said something really really ignorant about LGBT people today??

should i apologise to him and explain what I meant? but idk if that's weird cos I dont really.know him and I would have to message him on a social media

I'm brand new to this site so I'm sorry it took so long to reply. I do think of myself as a serious ally to LGBT and if what you said was anything like your example that you quoted saying, you really didn't say anything bad. The way I see it, you said you're not an expert on the school's stance but.... which seems pretty ok in my book. On the other hand, it's always ok to tell someone if you felt that what you said might have come off wrong or made them uncomfortable. I'm sure he would appreciate you approaching him about it, either way. Plus, if it gives you peace of mind, there would be no harm in it. People generally appreciate open communication like that.

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Something tells me you are probably just fine. I think it's good that you had the chance to interact with this other rep. Maybe you haven't had a great deal of close friends that are LBGTQ+ in the past and that's okay if the opportunity just hasn't really presented itself. Nothing you can do about that. But it sounds to me as if you are kind and very accepting of others. I think that is great!

Sometimes straight people can become a little nervous if they haven't had lots of gay friends, like deep meaningful relationships. If you haven't had the chance, well, you could be overthinking it, tripping over your words. But for me, gay people are just people like me and like you. Being gay doesn't mean that they are their sexuality. It's just that their sexuality is a part of them being a human being, just like anyone. It's simply a part of their life just as anyones. And yes, being gay could come with a different perspective from time to time, having to have faced unique challenges that maybe straight people haven't had to endure. Sure, kindness matters always, diversity in life and in friendships is a blessing.

I think anyone brings to the table their own special unique self no matter who we are or what label has been placed upon us or what label we decide to place on ourselves. I'm thinking you would have been a bit nervous and second guessing your words no matter who you had been speaking with if it was someone that had a vastly different experience of life up to this point.

As for me, I have quite a few LBGTQ+ friends. And more than just acquaintances. Deep and meaningful relationships. Deep relationships in which we have been incredibly close for so many years. So for me, it's easy. I've probably been to more gay pride rallies and gay bars with my friends back in the day than some LBGTQ+ people. I have to say, people In the LBGTQ+ community can be the most kind, wonderful, accepting people you will ever meet. And maybe it's because they know how bad it feels to be excluded or treated differently. I've been the one so many times that was the odd one, the only straight in the room, and so no one thought anything of it, wasn't a big deal at all. I was loved just the same.

The rep you spoke to isn't a mind reader, might not know what you were thinking, how you were feeling, not knowing if you were feeling nervous or not. Whether they did or didn't they may have been fine about it either way. If you would like to reach out and be friends with them, that's great. But trying to over compensate can be hard also. That rep is simply a human being and probably didn't think anything of it. I send you big *hugs*