major anxiety
Right now I am dealing with my girlfriend of only 2 and half months. Things were good for awhile as they usually are in the beginning. About 2 weeks ago she made a comment " if you hurt me I will punch throat you. emjoi sumbals of fist, hammer, gun" It through me back and scared me. I did confront her about it and she told me she was kind of kidding at first. As I couldn't get over it, she told me she was really kidding and asked if I thought she would really do that. I said I don't know. Now that , that is out of the way ( although i still have thoughts about it) Now it is her neediness that is starting to effect me, I am not so sure I can meet her needs. I spent the whole day Sunday fixing her tub and installed a new hot water heater and then saw her sunday night, and again monday night doing errands when she was getting ready to leave, apparently I wasn't giving her kisses she liked and telling her " love ya" instead of " I love you" We took about half hour before she actually left. It gives me anxiety to tell her how I feel anymore, which I know isn't safe nor the right thing to do. I just feel like I am stuck lately.
I know my issues are expressing how I feel and confritations at times. I was getting better till the last ex closed up on me when I tried to talk to her about things. Now i am afraid again and afraid of hurting her. I am scared and so anxious about it all.
Yea your girlfriend is a nutcase. Women who act co dependant like that have had serious issues when they were young, so it effects their relationships also. I have serious relationship problems b/c I had a narcissistic mother. I'm married, but I'm cold and have a hard time showing feelings. But I'm not a scary one like that! Wow .. lol
See I used to be co-dependant myself, and have really learned to do things on my own. Once in awhile it is nice to have someone around to share things with, because it can get lonely but not a reason to cling to someone. I have this anxiety because I'm scared to even talk to her or break up.
Co dependency oh dear.. That is always hard to deal with..but tolerating it is worse. Got to tell her.. And man up, if need be break up for your happiness. :/
See I used to be co-dependant myself, and have really learned to do things on my own. Once in awhile it is nice to have someone around to share things with, because it can get lonely but not a reason to cling to someone. I have this anxiety because I'm scared to even talk to her or break up.
Listen to your gut. And loving someone always puts a risk of being hurt. I don't get why she said that.. Obviously wants control in the relationship.. But not effective. Confront or move on! :/ nobody wants to be in an unhealthy relationship..
