My son and family
After my dad passed away, my family completely cut me off, leaving me to navigate the grief and responsibilities alone. What hurt even more was that they didn’t acknowledge my son’s birthday—he’s potentially autistic and looks forward to even the smallest gestures, yet they didn’t send a card or reach out in any way. It was a painful reminder that the family connection I once relied on had vanished, and that my son, who deserves love and recognition, was overlooked by the people who should have cared. I’m struggling with how to cope with this ongoing hurt and uncertainty, and I’m not sure how to handle family interactions—or lack thereof—in the future. I would really appreciate any advice on how to protect myself and my son emotionally while figuring out the best way to move forward. And I don't know whether to send a picture of his first school photo to my gran again we dont talk they all blocked and deleted me from everything and my gran refused to even speak to me during the time of my dad's death any advice appreciated
@StupidAnxiety
Im so sorry this has happened to you.
Grief is so painful, and the loss of a family member is when we need the support of others the most.
Being cut off only adds to the grief and loss. Of course this was and still is so painful for you.
And it's particularly hard when you can see that your son has lost out from this too.
What do you hope to achieve by sending a photo to someone who's clearly indicated that they aren't interested? Do you think you are likely to achieve it? I totally understand why you want to try. I would too. But sometimes acceptance is a better way forward.
Your son has you. And you are clearly fighting his corner. That can be enough. You can be enough.
@StupidAnxietyI'm really sorry you're going through this. Losing your dad and then feeling cut off from your family is incredibly painful, especially when your son is also being overlooked. Protecting your emotional well-being and your son's is important. It might help to focus on creating your own support circle—friends, community groups, or professionals who can offer understanding and care. Regarding your gran, if reaching out has been met with silence or hurt, it may be best to hold off on sending the photo for now to protect yourself from more pain. You deserve to be surrounded by people who value and support you and your son. If you'd like, I can suggest ways to build a positive support network or coping strategies.
