Keeping My Mouth Shut
Have you ever felt the need to keep your BD a secret? I do. I know it is better understood than in the past but I fear too much judgement. Also, I fear I wouldn't be as good with kids down the road if I ever decided to have any.
@mapleleaf2020
It is your life and you shouldn't be answerable to anyone, i understand how challenging the fear of judgement is ☹️
You can take time to decide on what you want❤️
I understand the desire to keep it to yourself. I have lost friends in the past due to this illness, though I don’t think that was an intentional choice by them. They just didn’t know how to deal when I was struggling. For me, I’ve learned to be cautious about who I share that information with. Not everyone feels the same, though, and I get that.
It’s totally understandable you feel this way. I believe you need to do what makes you feel more comfortable at the moment. If it means to keep it quiet, then don’t say it to anyone.
I have felt the need to say I have Bipolar, and most people’s reactions are meh, but the reason why I’ve revealed it is because I’ve become more accepting of this disorder.
One group of people I will never tell about my BD are coworkers and managers. I refuse to let them use this particular information against me if they decide to be a bother for any reason.
You’re not alone with your fear. I’ve thought the same thing before. But try not to pressure yourself with it. I believe time will eventually tell you if you really want the responsibility. Sending you a virtual hug!
I found out about 2 years ago that I had bipolar 2, 3 years into my mental health journey. I was devastated when I was told. Then I did more research and things just started to make sense for me. After awhile I told my closest friends and family so that they would be able to better support me if they chose too. It’s been a rough couple of years, but I am making progress as far as coping skills go. I have hard days for sure but progress is progress.
As far as kids go, I have a 4 y/o and am trying for another one. The key (for me) to being a successful parent is 1) my partner is understanding and supportive, 2) I take breaks, I remove myself from the situation when I need to and I calm down when overstimulated, 3) parenting is hard for everyone so when I’m having a hard day I remember it’s not just because of how I am, and 4) medication to help the waves of up and down. Medication is not a cure but it does allow for me to feel stable enough to incorporate my coping skills and manage situations. I would also recommend if possible therapy or someone you speak to regularly about how things are going. Having a support group in place is essential, for me at least. When I have had depressive episodes I have people who I can call who come help when they can. Going for walks helps too.
I agree with the statement above about coworkers and managers, I feel the same way about that.
I Hope this was helpful and wish you all the best on your mental health journey.