Work stress
People ask me every day, "How are you?" and expecr me to answer "Great, and you?". It's exhausting to lie to people all the time. I'm not great. I'm working a job where the manager quit and instead of replacing them, the responsibilities got out on me. I'm not being compensated or given any help, and have been told over and over that eventually I'd be promoted. It's wearing on my mental well-being, and on my physical health. I can't afford to quit, or to shove the duties on somebody else- there is nobody else. I guess I'm complaining to complain.
Any advice would be welcome. This is my first post here, or anywhere in the 7cups forums, so if I'm in the wrong place to be complaining, whoops! Hope y'all are doing better than I am.
@IsaacDouglas
If you are doing the work but have not been promoted or extra compensation...... can you be direct and ask about a timeline for the promotion?
If now is a chaotic time document the exact length of time and extra duties and when they do promote you ask for pay to be retroactive to when you actually took over the job.
@IsaacDouglas
It sounds like you've between a rock and a hard place. It's difficult when you get your manager's duties put on you when your manager quit.
I'm wondering, if they did today financially compensate you, would it help you be okay, or is it the job itself and the responsibilities of the job that are just overwhelming and not a good fit for you?
Sometimes responsibilities that are put on us without financial compensation are difficult, but the compensation makes a big difference - its not the job, it's being dumped on. In other times, it has nothing to do with the compensation. The responsibilities are just not liked or enjoyed, no matter how much compensation, the job is going to take a toll if it doesn't change the responsibilities.
Some things that you might consider would be what you do after work to find relief. For example, taking a relaxing walk, playing a physical game such as basketball or something to get the energy moving which also can release stress, or something that is quieter, such as relaxing with a good movie, a hot shower, or spending some time with someone you enjoy spending time with. Having alternative things you can do on different days can be good to keep the variety up - whether you are an extrovert or introvert, there are a lot of options to consider. What do you typically do after you get off work?
I was in a similar situation about 3 months ago....my immediate supervisor messed up, was demoted and forced into retirement. All his duties got dumped on me because "I could handle it"....I was "acting supervisor" until they could post, interview and promote....Many say I was being groomed for the job....maybe I was....I did everything I was supposed to and did it well.....It took 3 months for them to post the promotion and guess who didn't put in for it.....all my co-workers told me I was crazy, that the job could have been mine, etc, etc.....I didn't want it.....no amount of money could have made me happy doing what he was doing....the biggest thing that made me decide against it, and this is bad to say, was the subordinate staff I would be managing.....There were more problems with the staff than there was with any other area of work in the department....I didn't want to deal with those staff as in a supervisory roll....It was a good decision.....just food for thought....
And keep coming to 7cups...I has helped me a lot with work stress and burn out....find an idea that works for someone else and spin it to fit your situation...I've done that a bunch with some of my issues, and things are working.....