Answer Editing Requests

252888: Answer edited just to include key words and introduce the idea of seeking a listener at 7 cups. Sentence structure a bit more extensive

252891: Answer can be improved after giving a definition of depression and it’s symptoms. Useful to include 7cups.com/crisis link as there can be SI with depression if that’s the case. Link to the isolation aspect of depression. Close off with choice of reaching out to a listener. More attempt to try to link to the key word of the question. First sentence sounds more like advice so needs to be framed in more open way.

#252943 - spelling error “pressingurizing.” Last sentence needs broken down. For example “Gently approach them.” can work as a short sentence. New sentence “Constantly remind them that one can still love them.” No dashes needed in the first sentence.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

# 253359 Omit actually. Omit even though for although. Aim to make sentences shorter and snappy. Back up the quotation with evidence (e.g. who said this quote). Gently encourage them to chat online with listener at cups.

 253374 Back up first sentence with research. You mention an attachment style ambivalent – explain this as not everyone will understand that terminology. You can also explain the individual can feel prone towards idolising the person they hate.. explain that with the quote you mentioned. Change last sentence make it less about your personal experience “It’s understandable to cut off a person due to traumatic events you associate with them despite some fond memories. You are more than welcome to explore your thoughts and feelings with one of our valuable listeners online at 7 Cups.”

 253375 Your answer is informative and has good content. To make it stronger when mentioning phobia of dogs back it up with Little  Albert case study (he was taught to fear dogs) – previously did not fear them. As for the last sentence do not frame it personally using “I” – frame it like this “Research has shown that these coping strategies have been useful…”

 253376 Answer needs more meat to the bones. Back up points with structure. Show both sides of argument and a mention that the individual is welcome to share their perceptions through 1-1 conversation online with a listener. If there are interested in a wide variety of opinions they are also welcome to make best use of the member community rooms following guidelines with respect and dignity.

 253377 Check grammar, spelling, think of a structure on how you will make solid content out of the answer. I recommend google scholar to look up qualitative journal articles on eating disorders. You can look at Beat Charity site for specialist knowledge on eating disorders and share about the types. Don’t forget to mention they can seek support from listener 1-1 or even chat in community groups keeping in mind community guidelines.

 253378 Needs improvement in grammar and structure. To attain a structure think about what two sides of the story you want to argue in a way that shows your active listening skills. Don’t be afraid to use Google scholar to check out journal articles on anxiety and autism as these conditions a more reminiscent with feeling overwhelmed. Offer 7 cups as a means of support – you can chat to a listener who provides confidential 1-1 support and are welcome to chat in Member Sharing Circle communities where each individual gets enough time to share.

 253379 Use capital letters at start of sentences. Break up sentences that are long. Make use of journal articles through google scholar to get idea of structure needed – you can split your answer as follows – What is depression? How many experience this? Relate depression to seasonal changes – find evidence? Specifically find qualitative research on depression in Christmas, preferably interview methods

 253380 Think of a structure before writing out your answer. Think of the sides of the argument you want to show – what are relationships/how are they defined, cultural attitudes, gender attitudes, peer pressure. Try to give a neutral and balanced answer whilst still exhibiting active listening skills like you would as a listener. This should help with structure. Lastly signpost to 7 cups for 1-1 chat with listener.

 253381 Make the answer less about giving advice to the member. Although it may be tempting avoid labelling abusive behaviour as characteristic of narcissism, dismissiveness as abusive behaviour can show up in many unexpected ways. Focus on staying professional in answer – omit the “you” framing. You can structure as follows: I can hear you are feeling x,y,z emotion concerning someone who hurt you, explain depression/what is depression, common characteristics of it, boundaries, how you show up. Don’t be shy to use journal articles to keep an open-minded answer – these can be on boundaries, bullying and link to depression. Finish off with signposting to 7 cups.

 253382 Avoid chatting about personal experience as it’s about offering your active listening skills as the basis of this answer. Keep the answer open-minded, professional and empathetic, offer open-ended questions. Don’t  include personal information (emails). Do journal research using google scholar on perceptions of cheating to form basis of your answer. At the end signpost to 7 cups listener offering 1-1 support (don’t mention names).

 253383 I approved this answer after few edits

@SoulfullyAButterfly

You pose some relevant questions in the answer encouraging reflection which is good. Good content which needs to be backed up with evidence – relate cheating to fear of abandonment (you can ref in DSM model and borderline personality going into detail about this). Can you find any qualitative research either highlighting experience in relationships with partners who have BPD or personal experiences with how BPD impacts relationships.  253391

 253401 Break up the first sentence. Omit the word even in the second sentence as it sounds overly emphasised. Rephrase the youre not alone in this part. Add separate question marks for comfort, safety and compassion – Comfort? Safety? Compassion? Include a statistic from Relate site on individuals either feeling lonely in relationships or feeling lonely in experiences of bereavement – this can form basis of your answer adding a bit more meat to the bones. Offer the strategies in what they can try a bit more enthusiastically – Can you be invited to try out x,y,x (list strategies – include evidence from journals using google scholar on what strategies have worked in feelings of loneliness).

 253404 Omit honestly as a question. Part of your work : “ It’s easy to ignore ourselves when we’re busy or always trying to help others” can serve as a great topic sentence to nicely settle you into the layout. You can pick either journaling or brushing your teeth as something that has helped you and then go on to say “This tiny habit reminds me I matter to.” Then back it up with qualitative research that backs your self-care habit J  The answer just needs more thought around structure and it will be accepted. 

@SoulfullyAButterfly

 253410 Some sentences are a bit short. Structure needs work – Think about conditions were trust is challenging or even go about this discussion using attachment styles as the topic sentence. Explain each attachment style and then go into detail about avoidant attachment style. Give a real life example of how qualitative research or a case study fostered more trust using a certain therapeutic approach – CBT? PCT? Base your answer around these suggested factors. Then finally signpost to 7 cups site to browse listener of their choice – include listener browser link.

 253411 You speak about research so please exactly state the study –its important you reference this surname of the author in the journal article. Start the topic sentence of what stress is and then go on to explain how it impacts memory. Look at Baddley working memory model and relate it to stress using google scholar as a prompt to find journal articles. This should set up your answer more nicely J Then welcome the member to join in with sessions in the Fifty Plus support room which is about wellness and reflective activities to engage the mind. Link in the community calendar for more information. https://www.7cups.com/forum/communityCalendar.php

 253412 To answer the question in a more open-minded way you can put your active listening skills to practice J What emotion is underneath when they are asking this question? Validate that “I can hear you feel,,,” To make the answer more solid you can research on attachment styles and trust – show qualitative research on what looks like trust to each individual. Bring up the importance of boundaries. Your points are missing a back up with research. As a final sentence invite them to connect with a listener to help them to process their thoughts and feelings .

 253413 Reconsider how your sentences are arranged and back up your points with psychological research evidence. Try out Google scholar or you can take on information from this article Why Do We Fall in Love with the Person We Hate? https://medium.com/@mbrmakdag7/why-do-we-fall-in-love-with-the-person-we-hate-3c8e0cfebd85) to be based on the body of your answer. Let them know about the Relationship Support room where they can chat to individuals also struggling with relationships and feel part of a community. Finally signpost to chat to listener on 7 cups for 1-1 emotional support.

 253414 Its important to not make generalisations of which gender behaves in which way unless there is research to back it up. Please base the answer on what is hallmarks of a healthy and unhealthy relationship. Go into detail on communication styles and the difference between boundaries and avoidance. This should help as we don’t want to explain our own personal experience. It would be a good topic sentence to unpeal what their thought and emotional processing maybe asking this question – think active listening skills and put into practice. Then finally signpost to invite them to connect with a listener as a last sentence.

 253423 Its ok to talk about your own experience as long as it doesn’t divert from the question. You can pose it like this “It natural to feel…” Then ask yourself ok what emotion am I picking up from their question then go on from there. Find research on what an unhealthy relationship looks like. Find research also on why people go back after several breakups. The close the answer directing them to find a listener of their choice at 7 cups encouraging them to connect 1-1. Do not include personal information like names of doctor and phone numbers as this violates confidentiality. 

@SoulfullyAButterfly

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Please up your answers into paragraphs and review sentence structure. Are some sentences longer than they should be?

You can set up the answer in the following way as a rough idea:
1. Definition of depression, statistics

2.How the environment impacts on depression/ relate it to sensory issues

3. Relate depression to disinterest. Type in these key words on google scholar to search journal articles for a stronger link to the question – Keyword you can type in google scholar:  Environment Personality Impressions Workspace Messiness

4. Nicely finish it off with short snappy sentence validating the difficulty in tidy environment and reasons that limit motivation again. Simply reiterate.

5. Invite the individual to seek support on 7 cups 1-1.

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You have interesting questions but ask them in a more open ended way – think of another way someone can answer where they elaborate from yes or no answer J

Begin to explain what depression in and how it presents signs and symptoms – NHS site can explain this, APA site, BPS site – you choose but ref it!

Best practice is to incorporate your active listening skills into the answer!

-       Ask what feeling is coming  through in the question they are asking

You can simply explain in the second sentence that each experience is unique and research on perceptions of purpose as a starting point. Google Scholar is an excellent tool to use – type in key words related to the topic.

Introduce coping strategies from personal experience omitting the I word – A bucket list of these activities have shown to be helpful as explained by X study (name study). If you want to make the experience personal related to yourself say “naturally this has been useful.”

Finally close off and signpost to 7 cups site for depression community support room. Explain that whilst depression is manageable for some others struggle with suicide ideation – if you are finding the dark thoughts agnonising then please refer to 7cups.com/crisis where you will get specialist support and then explore our site.

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May want to reconsider structure of answer. “Emotions contain truths, but they may not show us the truest picture on the broad sense.” – could this part of your answer work best as a first sentence. It then gives you the room to ask the questions (make them more open –ended – What does the feelings of hurt look like for you?” – this helps deal with the more emotive part to explore J).

Google scholar is an excellent tool to look for research articles.

Please re-read your answer making sure many different ideas aren’t put together in one sentence.

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You are using lovely metaphors.! Its clear your focusing your answer around self-love and to make the focus clearer you can incorporate research using google scholar tool.

Type in the key words you mention and search: Inner critic;self-doubt;qualitative research; relationships.

See what comes up! J                                          

 253419

Please back up your answer with research ref the studies. Give a balanced answer showing the for and against AI.

A good start would be being curious about the emotion behind the question being asked – invite reflection on active listening skills in the answer

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Research first to develop answer and acknowledge studies as ref point. If you want to talk about personal experience say “naturally and explain your point” then link to research and how it supports what you are presenting.

Finally as always signpost to 7 cups and offer space to reach out to a trained listener

 253421

Approved

 253422

This resource named drama triangle theory can make your answer much stronger (https://www.attachmentproject.com/psychology/drama-triangle/). Sentences are a  good length.

It should be good to submit soon

Just signpost to the site at the end. 

@SoulfullyAButterfly

253439 – reflect – what emotions do you think are coming out when they are asking this question? Cut back on sharing your personal exeriences – reframe it as follows “Naturally research has shown those who are war veterans can wonder if they will be missed – find research”. Link the answer to loneliness and purpose more. Maybe statistics can help with this.

Type this search criteria on google scholar: war veterans; loneliness; purpose; depression; ptsd;anxiety

The first three articles look really good to base the answer of: Study by Stein (2018), Stein (2017), Wilson (2018).

Do the research, plan and writeJ

Finish it off with signposting to 7cups site to connect 1-1 with listener for emotional support.

 253427 check word choice in the last sentence – replace even though with although. Try not to state your opinion and approach it with curious tone showing through please. Think ok what emotions are coming through in that question they are answering J Can you dig deeper and research on the definitions of purpose via google scholar – this can be your topic sentence.

 Learn about maslow hierarchy of needs and incorporate this into your answer on purpose – leave it an open-ended answer.

Can frame it like this “You may be curious as to which path you want to take in terms of career, relationships.” Make the answer more about honing in on the individuals autonomy. What are different cultures saying about purpose? – this can be your evidence link to studies.

Google scholar is a great site – you may want to organise your search like this - money; purpose; maslow hierarchy of needs; religion

All the best!

 253428

Please frame your answer in third person. Avoid using “I”

Break the first sentence up – needs to be shorter.

Can you find qualitative or quantitative research where AI as a therapist has received favourable and unfavourable reviews? This would be good to highlight and contrast J

Google scholar – please use this to type in key critera . The criteria can be: AI; therapist; reviews; (The first two articles look great to dig deep into to frame your answer)

Good luck – A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself am I usin my active listening skills here (paraphrasing, professionalism, empathy and open ended questions) you’ve got this! J

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Please give more background scope (e.g. research from google scholar with your key words in mind on how you are trying to frame the answer) on what love languages are – this helps set the scene. You may want to link to forgiveness, trust and attachment styles. You can explain what the ainsworths attachment styles are after mentioning love languages.

Please look at this sentence in your answer “In case you really feel like you have betrayed your partner’s trust, the first thing would be to take ownership of the mistake and apologize” – can it be more empathetic?

After you are happy with how you’ve shown your active listening skills then do finally signpost them to a listener to connect with. You can also let the individual know there is a relationship community support room where they can share their personal experiences and feel connected in a community atmosphere. 7cups.com/BrowseListeners to help them find a listener and Community Calendar link to show when sessions are on in Relationship Support Community.

Keep working hard! J

 253431

Same feedback – please frame your answer in third person.

First research the key terms you want to include in your answer on google scholar to give a more blucky answer.

Theories you can refer to Duluth model ,- this is about the beahviours and motivations behind male perpreators of domestic violence, You can speak about stolkholm syndrome – the individual in the abusive relationship is defensive towards any critique shown towards their partner.

Show your active listening skills to the best of your ability J

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Refrain from stating your opinion unless backed up with evidence. Change the I to “Research has shown that..”

You can ask yourself what constitutes therapy

Adv/disadv of AI therapists vs real therapists refer to google scholar to find research

Can type this in google scholar - AI; therapist; reviews; (The first two articles look great to dig deep into to frame your answer)

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To make answer more specific you can link stress to memory in individuals with either mental health conditions or learning difficulties.

Google scholar you can type: autism;stress; memory;concentration

This can be an interesting way to build on your answer J

You signposted to the site which is good – well done

Do you have evidence for your cortisol argument ? – include it

J

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It can greatly help to research the strengths and weakness of AI chatbots

You can find informations on the motivations to seek help via AI or face to face

Make sure you are using your active listening skills – strong topic sentence (can start of with a stat – how many use AI as their therapist?)

Final sentence to offer healthy discussion in member community room J

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You could link your answer more strongly to culture (west vs east) to show balance.

Peer pressure can be another factor – explain why using research via google scholar

Active listening skills needed – what emotions come through when they ask this question (this helps with the empathy part)

 253441

More sensitive phrasing in first sentence – omit but not impossible. Ask a few open-ended questions to help them to self-reflect “Ask yourself where this fear is coming from? Ask yourself how you best communicate? Audio? Journalling? Face to face?

You can link your answer to stigma in specific cultures for a base.

Google scholar key terms: eating disorder; parent reactions (all this can be great to form answer – first two studies look very good to help you get some idea of what to write – Ciao 2022 study, McMaster 2004)

 253454

Do not include personal information such as emails in your answer. Base the answer of research from the arguments you’ve presented.

Ask yourself where you have used your active listening skills – good rule of thumb

 253453

Find research on a counselling membership body on- counselling membership bodies are BACP, COSCA, HCSP. Think of ones in the country you are from J

a)     What confidentiality is

b)     Examples of where it is used

c)     What would happen if it was violated – give an example

This sets up the answer nicely.

Also as a topic sentence think of what emotions come through when this question is being asked.

 253443

Can you shorten the first sentence?

You can link the answer to something specific such as performance anxiety, organisational skills, concentration

Google scholar it:

ASD; new situations; overhwhelm

You can choose the 2012 study to look into – pick one that looks interesting

Close off signposting to cups.

 253444

Please check where you’ve repeated any information.

Can you find qualitative research on people explaining their personal experiences with anxiety? Use google scholar search terms: qualitative research; anxiety; personal experiences

Structure into parapgraphs.

 253446

Maybe find research – where have certain groups been better socially using AI ? Autism? Neurotypical? Dsylexic better face to face speaking?

Base your answer of stronger arguments .

@SoulfullyAButterfly

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Hi Summer.

I like that you have used the question as a topic sentence J

Can you please write the answer in third person ? (omit “I” usage)

When talking about personal experience frame it as “Naturally one would think that….”

Back up your points with research from google scholar tool – here you can insert key words to structure your answer well! J Find research around the “golden child” idea you present and link it to purpose.

Yes it would be a good idea to look up the Autistic experience of purpose to build on your answer.

Finally a strong snappy sentence on mentioning 7 Cups platform to seek support from a listener 1-1 privately .

Some good ideas but need to back it up with research. Focus on qualitative research and look for statistic info in the autistic experience J Focus on sentence arrangement.

 253464

To focus more on the empathy aspect of active listening please ask yourself what emotions are coming through when they are asking the question.

Please omit personal information (email address). You can direct the individual to the individuals personal website and then they can find that information there

Focus on using research as a basis to frame your answer. You can look at attachment styles in relation to perceptions of cheating. Explain the different types of cheating then link to question .

Type in google scholar this search term: perceptions of infidelity

Explore the research there. What catches your eyes? J Frame your answer!

This could be what you choose to read: Sociosexuality, commitment, sexual infidelity, and perceptions of infidelity: Data from the second love web site

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Please back up with research and that will set you up for more depth in your answer.

Explore what emotions are coming through from the questions being asked as a starting point J

Do you have research evidence for Alexa and Amazon – please mention the studies J

Type these terms in Google Scholar: perceptions of AI; emotions

See which article looks interesting to build an answer from J Reading first then attempt!

Good luck!

@SoulfullyAButterfly

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Cheating and extramarital affairs are different words that share the same meaning J

Can you find the personal webpage of the email address you’ve given? This is just to protect confidentiality as we should not be sharing email addresses.

You can do journal research on google scholar and use key terms:

-          Infidelity; perceptions

-          Attachment style; infidelity

PICK ONE CENTRAL THEME TO FOCUS ON TO MAKE ANSWER CLEARER. J

-          Don’t forget to implement active listening skills into the answer (professionalism, empathy, paraphrasing , open-ended questions)

-          Finally signpost to 7 cups site to find a listener to chat to 7cups.com/BrowseListeners

-          They can also visit Relationship Support Room to feel part of community. 

A lot of feedback given but I assure you that your answer will be more stronger and focused. J

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It is ok that you have shared your personal experience J Can you please frame the personal experience as follows “naturally you may think or you can present with these kind of symptoms…” Then do back up your answer with guidelines from whichever nation you are from (e.g. if US  the APA, if UK BPS guidelines on the traits the represent panic attacks).

No need to state your age as this is personal info.

Try the following:

-          Ask what emotion is being conveyed through the question

-           253471 – If you are stating a personal experience you can frame language as follows (“ From personal experience I felt this way and it lead to this outcome ..”). Then it would be a good opportunity to back it up with evidence). Find your evidence in journal articles using Google Scholar to search key terms like this: AI therapist; real therapist; client experiences; qualitative

-          You can signpost to member community room for fun discussion on your thoughts and feelings if you enjoy interactive environments.

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Its great that you’ve found evidence but please state exact source (e.g. which newspaper, journal article did you get that info from. Was it Jerry et al 2005?? More specificity please so then the individual can access that material). J

Good – you used wording of the question as a topic sentence. J

A bit more empathetic reflection – what emotions, thoughts and feelings are coming through the question they are asking.

Can you link your stats to any psychological theories? A good one can be social learning theory J

Good ideas and content overall that just needs to be a bit more blucky!

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Choose a guideline related to your nationality that is governed by psychotherapists? It could be BACP and then share what that membership body says about how to protect confidentiality and what it is.

Again you make good points but you need evidence  and then this will make a good answer more structured.

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 It can be a good idea to think about doing a reflection on the emotions, thoughts and feelings that are coming up from the question they are asking (is it love, rage, doubt – “I can hear that you are feeling X”

You don’t need a comma in your first sentence.

To lengthen the answer you can introduce open ended questions (What does a break mean for you personally? What are your perceptions of boundaries in relationships? How do you exercise boundaries?).

You can link your answer to Attachment styles and find that info on google scholar in journal articles

Final signposting to 7 cups site to find a listener.

 253475

I see an improvement in structure!

Try this – after making a topic sentence then find research evidence that either agrees or contrasts with your point. It can be interesting to find a contrasting point because then you can go on to concisely explain different perspective and then give the person the power to reflect – then asking open-ended questions ? J

Finally signpost to 7 cups site to find a listener.

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Can you break up the first sentence into a shorter one to improve readability? J

What emotions and feelings are you hearing from their question (e.g. love, admiration? Specifically state it) – that can help with the empathy aspect. You currently show empathy letting the person know it is not their fault which is good – well done J This question can strengthen it!

Don’t be afraid to ask open-ended questions – what are your perceptions of how relationships should be? How do you and husband in general communicate? What makes you keep trying?

The last part of the answer is important for introducing the introduction of 7 cups site signpost 7cups.com/BrowseListeners to direct them to a trained listener for 1-1 support.

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Your answer gets straight to the point but what if they are not ready to hear the truth. Can you give the emotional reflection side of the answer the logical is good? Research qualitative information on male infidelity could help and offering some open-ended questions too. J

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I know it can be draining – do fight the need to defend ok ?<3  Good points but then google scholar it on perceptions of therapy across various cultures or gender or religions – that can be an even more interesting answer.

Try to showcase your active listening skills well like you’ve done in member chats.

You can put this into practice – I know it J

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A few extra brownie points

– state what autism is – can you find how a psychologist or counsellor would define it? J

-          A brief ink to psychological theories of autism (social disability model – this model sees autism as a difference but it comes with it weaknesses and medical model – this model sees autism as a deficit but comes with strengths – so what are  strengths and weaknesses in diagnosing?)

-          Back some of your points with research – primarily stick to qualitative as this gives written accounts in methodology such as interviews, case studies). Google scholar is a life saver!

 253480 What emotion are you hearing from the question they are asking (name it J)?

Back up your answer with evidence and then use active listening skills J

Finally signpost to 7 cups site browse listener link.

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This answer is a nice balance of compassion. Well done – great work on the knowledge – more room for detail in the answer though J

What you need is a strong topic sentence – what is ADHD – can you explain the core features, traits?

Refer to Dr Susan Youngs work. 

@SoulfullyAButterfly

253483 Feedback – use your active listening skills to answer the question. You pick up on potential feelings – nicely done J Consider which sentences to make shorter to improve impact.

Also include research to back up what you state.

Finally signpost to browse listeners link

 253484 omit “Even” as a starting word for sentence. Clearer structure – explain what depression is and use research to back up points you make.

Finally signpost to Depression Community and send listener link

 253485 Focus on the emotion coming through in the question . Lengthen the answer through using active listening skills. Research google scholar and type in key terms to find qualitative journals backing up points and going against points too – makes for a nice contrast J

 253486 Good time to use evidence to back up points in your decent topic sentences ok <3 Frame the good ideas you have in a more open-ended question style. This creates more dialogue for the individual to reflect.

Finally signpost to listeners

 253487 Privacy is what confidentiality protects. Consistently stick to the word confidentiality. Find a guideline that explains what it is and ref it – BPS, BACP, APA

This can help expand on answers and finally send over browse listener link  .

#253482

Awkward first sentence structure  - reframe it – make the sentence shorter for impact J

Sentences one and two can merge together omitting “when im feeling down and even when im not”

Reframe the next sentence.

You can tackle the question like this:

-          Make a strong topic sentence first on self-care

-          Find research that is “for” the theme your putting across which is self-care (e.g. Has it shown to be helpful for a particular group? If so how? )

-          Go into detail about affirmations which you mention have been helpful in your own experience.

The overall goal of the answer is to put across your effective active listening skills – go for it!:)