Daily Check-In For April 18th 2022
Hi!
I have missed doing the check-ins. Thank you to the amazing people on the team who have taken up the roles of making the daily check-ins❤️
Check-In Questions
- Think about this for a few seconds, do you think you're living life hoping that when a specific thing comes around you'll be happier? (e.g Once I have __ things will be so much easier, and I can finally be happy)
- Do you think of yourself in a positive light? That is, do you criticize yourself and bring you down regularly? If yes, what do you think is the reason?
- What are the little things that make you happy?
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Question 1:
- I kinda do, once I have happiness and understanding from my parents I can probably finally be happy.
Question 2:
- I kinda do, due to my parents overreacting over mistakes I make
Question 3:
- Only my friends make me happy so far
I am not sure that we ever totally understand our parents. Sometimes it is easier to accept them warts and all without trying to fully make sense of them.@OvixHideout
@OvixHideout
Hi, it's nice to meet you❤️
It sounds like you don't really like the kind of relationship you have with your parents. It's very hurtful when your parents don't understand you, or make you feel like you don't matter.
I kind understand this feeling, as I had a rocky relationship with my mother in the past. Your feelings are valid, and you do not have to question whether you deserve respect and to be treated fairly. You do.
I'm glad you have friends that make you happy, good friends make everything better❤️
Take care for now!
@MyNameIsNicole,
hi, Nicole,
1. Think about this for a few seconds, do you think you're living life hoping that when a specific thing comes around you'll be happier? (e.g Once I have __ things will be so much easier, and I can finally be happy)
No.
2. Do you think of yourself in a positive light? That is, do you criticize yourself and bring you down regularly? If yes, what do you think is the reason?
yes, too much trauma that I have not overcome
3. What are the little things that make you happy?
Thinking about how I am planning my future, my cat, flowers that I am growing, the feral cats, the raccoons, lying in my comfy bed, the view from my apartment
Oh, what kind of flowers are you growing?@purpleTree4652
@bestVase7265
Hi, Vase! :)
I've got 4 types of impatiens on the back patio. They are from last summer, and survived the winter! I split some of them and others kept producing babies so I repotted those and one came back from what I thought was death, so I split it into a bunch and repotted the zombie plants. From 4 last year I'm up to about 14 pots of impatiens from last summer. Then in the front of the apartment, I've got snapdragons, zinnias, petunias, bachelor buttons, marigolds...and I think that's it. I am growing those from seed. Most of them seem to have sprouted and are growing. :) I want a bunch of flowers in front of the windows to attract birds and bugs and butterflies, and then lizards and cats to eat them. It will be so nice for me and my cat, Chloe. Do you like to garden?
I would love to find the time to try to garden. Right now our front yard is basically a barren wasteland with a few blades of grass and mulch. I want to plant some flowers, but I am going to have to wait until the semester is over. @purpleTree4652
@bestVase7265
Right now you're focusing on what is more important, school. :)
Grading papers, blech. @purpleTree4652
@purpleTree4652
Hi💛
I get that, trauma can be really difficult to heal from and often times we don't even realize the impact of our traumatic past.
It's amazing you're self-aware, and realize that you have not yet overcome your trauma. You will get there though, and remember your trauma does not define who you are💛
Yayy, some of those things make me happy as welll. What kind of flowers are you going? I'm a huge gardening freak, and I looove flowers!
I'm so happy for you that you have positive expectations towards your future, I hope whatever you plan will happen for you❤️
@MyNameIsNicole
Think about this for a few seconds, do you think you're living life hoping that when a specific thing comes around you'll be happier? (e.g Once I have __ things will be so much easier, and I can finally be happy)
There are things like that for me, things I believe would make my life easier and things better. But I try to stay a realist about it.
Do you think of yourself in a positive light? That is, do you criticize yourself and bring you down regularly? If yes, what do you think is the reason?
Haven't learned a way to think of myself in a positive light, no.
What are the little things that make you happy?
Small things my partner does that have a big effect. And lately "reading dates," as he likes to call them.
What is a reading date? @OneErased
@bestVase7265
Basically just reading different books at the same time. Talking a bit afterwards. It was weird spending time like that at first, but it's actually pretty nice.
That is really nice. It is a good way to slow down and just be together. What kinds of books do you read?@OneErased
@bestVase7265
I read about anything, really. Usually I just pick one of his books and he has a wide range when it comes to genres and such.
It is great to mix and match. I love the idea. Maybe when we retire my husband and I will have enough time to do something like that.@OneErased
@OneErased
Of course, setting goals for yourself is important. Sometimes, we actually have to have _ to be happier. I agree, and it's good you try to be realistic about your expectations. Although I like to let myself wander and have a few big dreams as well💛
Learning to think of yourself in a positive light isn't easy, especially when dealing with trauma. I hope that gradually you do learn to not put yourself down, and I wish you the very best in this journey with all the support I can offer💙
Aww reading dates, that's so cute and I'm happy they make you happy❤️
See you around, take care for now!
@MyNameIsNicole
- I try to think of myself in a positive light. Once in a while, I can criticize myself but then I do perspective taking and thinking of myself in the third-person. It could be because I am not perfect and that's okay. Little things that make me happy are music, family, friends, etc.
It is so nice when you accept the not perfect version of yourself.@SynSavory
@SynSavory
I agree, and I like that. You're not perfect and that's okay❤️
Music, family and friends sounds like the perfect combination for a happy time!
@MyNameIsNicole
Yeah, I am trying my best. :)
