Toxic parents....
U know how messed up this is when kids have to tell their parents how to act like partners ...healthy couples and that they should know what to say to whom... My parents they are toxic couples.. they don't even try t fix things they just ignores and act indifferent.. They say bad about each other to outsiders .. to our extended family and i don't know why they can't understand that their so called extended family isn't their to help them they are just listening to get a gossip...They say things they should not say in front of their kids ... in front of outsiders . I know couples fight but after fight or arguments they should try to fix it not to ignore the person who is helping them to fix that... Its hard for me too to tell my parents how to behave like couple..I am also just 18 .. Today they were shouting in front of my extended aunt who is just a gossip queen .. with eacho ther about her husband and all that *** .. I mean u guys are adult atleast u should know that u guys should not fight about her husband in front of her ... they are not like u guys .. she shares things with her husband unlike u .. And i know my mom do weird things and she hide things from dad so do dad.... I can't handle their fights anymore so i left the house and went to my friends house and tbh i think arguments and fights don't leave my back ... i go there and then there too people started fighting but yeh i came home ..but i finally took courage to make my parents sit in a room and try to talk to them calmly about their behaviour and that they should try to fix it they have kids at home i have my small brother who is just 15 ... he don't show emotions but he feel too so i tried to make things little better but ... have they ever gonna listen to me ?? *** NAH !!! my mom just ignored me and went to do her chores and my dad they both are same they don't even want to try to fix things . I know their past was tough and they had things and fights and maybe past grudges but things can get better only if u try .. It will be same and would never fix if we won't even try once and i don't know why they can't understand that...
Hi Jyotik. I'm sorry you are going through this chaos for no fault of yours. It was difficult to read and I'm sure it's way more difficult to live through. It seems that your parents are so consumed by fighting that they refuse to understand how it makes you feel and what the extended family thinks of them. For what it's worth, I believe it was very brave and mature of you to try to talk to your parents. I wish they would listen.
While reading this nothing came to my mind but the same situation at my home. And as an eldest I can understand what you are going through. Idk what to say but what I learnt from this is they are never going change, basically there's no point to make them understand how to behave like parents.
And in the end they are going to do whatever they want but we will be left all disturbed. Only your mental health is going to get affected. And yes even my parents do the same thing, that they think everyone out there is going to help them except their partners. They always keep complaining to other relatives about each other. I really felt so relatable and also very heartbreaking. Because everytime I go through this *** I just pray to God that no one should face this type of ***. No one deserves this type of treatment from their own parents and had to beg them to act like one.
I can feel your pain and whatever you're dealing with. Just want to tell you no matter what be strong for yourself and your lil brother. I hope you both get out of this situation very soon and live happily.🫂🫂❤️
@gentleBlueberry6881 thank you soo much 🫂🥰
