One thing I am feeling sad about today is....{share here}

@Cargirl22

your post resonated with me so mch.

I completely understand but the one thing I wanted to say was about 'improving' yourself and that never being enough. I am unsure what you mean by this but for me improving myself has been a very long journey. As a younger person I now realise I was suffering depression and also very stressed but I didn't recognise my behaviour and wish that someone had who could have explained that my anger, frustration and mood swings were all part of this. I would have sought help. Instead I was an unpredictable and sometimes angry mom who would shout and 'scare' my children. Many years on and finally on the right medication I am more my true self a loving, sensitive, empathetic human. I haven't changed I got myself back. do you feel that your trying to improve yourself is actually you trying to get yourself back or do you seek to fundamentally change as a person?

About being lonely. I am terribly. I need to try very hard to join like minded people in things that interest me. Recently I bought a ticket to go to an event. I'm already making excuses why I can't go. I want to go but of course I'll be alone. Sometimes this can be okay while other times it just emphasises my aloneness. But how else can you meet people you share a common interest with? FB groups are good house plants, BoHo style, farmhouse style. Bullet journals, try this it really helps.

I so hope this wonderful site helps you Hugs xx

@Cargirl22

I feel like that too. Lonely even when I am surrounded by people. Because I feel like no one understands me.

I also can't trust anyone :(

i really hope u find a genuine friend who can have your back and actually cares about u.

makes a world of a difference.

@placidTurtle9696

so sorry you're feeling that way. I hate that feeling. I also hate hating --- such a negative feeling :(

but out you know what? Realizing that you're still finding yourself is one of the first steps of finding yourself.

You will find yourself --- just keep at it <3

@simplelife2468

you can't rely on others to give you hope. You must find hope for yourself. If you are depressed please consider medication. I was on the wrong medication for 12 years now on the right medication it is helping me find some kind of hope by allowing me to care for myself better. Keeping my home tidy, trying crafts, listening to music again, joining good FB groups on different topics like bullet journals there's a good one for people suffering anxiety and depression. Just try the mindfulness practices too on this site and take baby steps to being your own hope for your future. Hugs xx

@simplelife2468

I don't.

And that's what ends up hurting me the most.

@simplelife2468

unfortunately, that's true. The sooner you realize that, the better. You'll stop having expectations of others and won't be disappointed. Because even if they try helping you at first, everyone leaves eventually. The 'don't care' attitude is important so you won't think too much if it's your mistake why they left. Truth is, only you can help yourself because it's your life. People come and go.

@simplelife2468

As one of those who give hope then leave, I apologize. I cant help those who cant help and give up on themselves. I grew tired then slowly didnt keep in touch. Yes, i feel really guilty and i regret that. But at the same time, i also want to be understood that i have my limit. I also have problem in life yet people keep seeing me as someone who is capable and strong then rely on me. While i dont have anyone to rely on. In the end i runaway from them. Im weak, and my will to help is just as it is. Maybe i dont have that much of commitment for my friends.

What i understand the most is, that people wont know that you need support unless you tell them. It is hard to confess at first and perhaps ppl will keep their problem hidden to themselves and seek for help but didnt say anything (my current situation rn ironically)

Im sorry if i offend you in any way And if i got off from topic as well. this is just one of my regrets and i still havent find a way to stay strong so i can also help my friends. Im also in a condition where i cant even solve my own problem and feel so stressed. Oh well, thanks for reading and im sorry if i didnt make any sense @@

@selfdisciplinedBlueberry1585

i could have written exactly all of this. Can I suggest going to your Dr and explains you need some help at the moment. Then as my replays to others try and connect with like minded people through interest groups on FB this will help take you out of your head for a bit. Replaying is something I have had problems with for years. You need to try recognise that this keeps you stuck. You should practice the mindfulness guided meditations to help you. This will allow in time space to clear in your head to think and feel other things instead of this stickiness.

Try something new. I know how impossible this feels but set yourself small baby step goals. Only you can become and live a happier version of yourself. Don't allow the past to take your future. Be strong seek help and try very hard to start a new interest. Have you tried creating a life board- some people find this creative and transformative. It's not easy there will be times you feel one step forward two steps back but only you can take the first step. Being here is a good one!

@intuitiveBeechwood6820

Wildlife still exists in the winter guess we just need to dress warm and get out!! We always make excuses- this is just one more. I hate wintertime I'm a summer person so take steps now to be prepared for this. Buy cosy clothes and boots don't need to be brand new! Join a walking group- yes you can! Volunteer!!! Always need people like you. Feel that you have nothing to offer- yes you do! Go and have a chat with a voluntary organisation. Speak to your local church and ask them what's in your community you could help with. It's just hard I know NO motivation is our worst enemy. There are good people around and so much good in this world join groups to move this new world forward. We cannot allow all the bad to takeover. If you need to stop listening to and watching the news or really cut it down. This has helped me.