Is it even possible for me to love myself?
I've hated myself for so long that I have forgotten what it's like to love myself. I know it's important for your overall well being, but it just seems unreachable at this point. I don't love myself, I don't love anything about myself. Every day I wear a mask, hiding my true feelings because I know for a fact that nobody would love me if I revealed my true nature. I mean, how can anyone love this?
yes we all need to love ourselfs thays true
@LeoTheLlitteLionCub1 Could you elaborate..?
@CurWilliam It is possible to love yourself but if you've spent so long disliking yourself it will take time. It takes time to love something that's why its called falling in love. :) Start small. Look at yourself In the mirror and say something like wow my hair looks great today or I love the way I look in this color. Take yourself out on dates and do stuff you like, even if it's small things like going to the store. Don't give up on yourself. You will be able to love who you are. ❤
@blueocean45 Thank you for replying. I know it takes time, but I often wonder if I will ever be able to love myself again. I don't know if telling myself that I look good in front of the mirror will do much to be honest. I don't really have gripes with my physical appearance. I know that's a source of low self-esteem for a lot of people, but not for me. My self loathing comes from the fact that I've never done anything worthwhile in my life or that I am unintelligent and socially inept.
@CurWilliam Have you been hurted in the past? Do you feel like its difficult to open up? I know sometimes it can be really difficult to open up, and continue with out path in life. So I am offering you to be your listener and try to help you and see how I can help you to overcome this. Is really good that you can express yourself here and tell others how you feel, I think that is the first step to feeling better.
@CurWilliam
It is really important for a person to love everything about theirself inorder to be able to love other people.
@PostitiveLife
Great! Now I hate myself even more!
@PostitiveLife
Sorry, that was rude. I know you are trying to help, but that statement makes me feel like horrible psychopath who is unable to love anyone.
Hi, @CurWilliam
First, Im really sorry you feel like this.
Take a paper, trace a vertical line in the middle. On the left, list the reasons why you dislike yourself, on the right, write why, and what you can do about it. If you can't do anything about it, you'll have to deal with it. Keep in mind that nobody's perfect, we all have flaws, a lot. Some can be erase, other can't. And that's ok. You only need to accepte dit, and even learn to love it. And if you can do something about it, well it's a great news.
On the other side of the same paper, do the same, but with great things about you, think about what you love, like or admire about yourself. It can be anything : your perseverance, a physical trait, something you're good at. And write why you like it, and how you've get it. at first. You'll maybe couldn't find anything good about you, but keep looking.
Think about what would make you a lovable person in your eyes. Who are you, and who do you want to be ? Think about it.
Take a little time every day to take care of you, physically, but also mentaly. Do what you like, take time for you. To learn to live with yourself,you have to know yourself, so take the time for that. Someone already tell this, but talking to your reflection with kindness could help you. Yeah, you will probably feel ridicule the first times, but it end up being a pleasant thing to be nice to yourself, and most important : You'll end up being kind to you without a miror. It's a way to change the way you're thinking about yourself.
I fully understand what youre talking about. I was like you when I was younger, I hated myself for most of my life to be honnest. But Ive get over it in high school, thanks to amazing friends, who pushed me to open up, and who helped me a lot after that. Talk to people. Stop wearing that mask. Its reassuring, but it will hurt you. Its not you, and people wont hate you for what you are.
Today Im in the same situation as you, Ive put on a mask for too long, and now I have no idea about who I am. I dont love myself. Sometime I hate myself, I see myself as a monster again. But Im working on it. I get over it once, why not twice ? If I could beat it, you can. You worth it.
Take care, stay strong.
