The inconveniences that come with a disability. Please, share your experience if you couldn't!
Dear 7 Cups Community members,
I am HazelnutChocolate, and I recently joined 7 Cups in order to help other people who are struggling with a difficult situation. Today I wanted to address a topic, which maybe has may be not been adressed in this community, and, overall, in our society.
There can be no doubt that disability inconveniences are comonplace. This can be pains, general discomfort or even worse things, which I will not mentionate in order to not to help anyone's sensibility. My intention is for this to become a collective thread for venting, for those who haven't had the opportunity before.
If I tell you about this, is because many of people who has a discability do not express their discomfort, because, let's be honest, nobody wants to be a burden. That's why, from the bottom of my heart, I encourage you to be brave, and share with me and with many other disabled people, who need to hear you, what are the inconveniences of having a disability.
Thank you! 🤗 Don't forget you're essential too. 💗
Firstly love your name, it's adorable.
I think it's the mass perception, that disabilities aren't real. I'm not the same as a healthy person because they don't have limitations.
When I say, I can't do a certain action or go to a certain place, most of the time, the reaction is utter disgust......
As though I'm being lazy or disruptive. There's no compassion or understanding that Yes my body is different but I'm still a regular person.
Why is it wrong to look after my needs? If someone had an allergy no-one would expect them to surround themselves with that toxic combination..
@ScrabbleBrain
Dear Scrabble,
Thank you for being brave and share your experience.
Firstly, I want to let you know that I totally understand what you relate. Sometimes, people don't understand how are we feeling. Or, on the opposite, they understand how we are feeling but they do not accept we fell that bad.
Secondly, it is totally valid, and it should be validated, that you priorize yourself and your feelings first. Just that is alright. However, please do not let anybody to make you feel bad.
I honestly always follow this popular expression on those situations. My grandma taught me it: Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.
I wish you the best! ❤️
@hazelnutchocolate Smiles, well I'm actually used to the disrespect so people's intolerance/ignorance doesn't bother me as much.
But when the pain gets too much, that's when I feel especially sensitive and vulnerable.
@ScrabbleBrain
That's totally understandble. But, that also demostrate your wiseness and patience with others.
@ScrabbleBrain
If someone had an allergy no-one would expect them to surround themselves with that toxic combination..
Sadly, I find that's fairly common. It's really difficult to avoid certain allergens even at medical clinics.
@AffyAvo
Wise words, AffyAvo.
@ScrabbleBrain I can relate to this I find reactions of ignorance and disgust upsetting and irritating.
@adventurousBranch3786 I don't blame you at all. It's so maddening...
Hello @hazelnutchocolate
Great topic! I used to get upset with my family and friends because I know they didn't believe the extent of my disability. Funny once I was approved for SSDI on my first application their attitude changed. But I lost all of my friends I guess because they got tired of me declining invitations to go out or attend functions. At one point I couldn't even think about leaving the house without getting a panic attack! So on top of the pain, the fatigue and feeling down your family and friends make you feel like a hypocondriac. I know my limits and I don't know what I'll wake up to (pain, fatigue, dizziness, ect). This makes it difficult to plan anything. Thank you for starting this thread!🤗🫶💜