Has Anyone Here Been Skinny Shamed? I feel alone about this.

I have not been skinny shamed but I had a few friends who have been. It is not your fault but society's fault for telling people it is ok to say those things. I think it is also has to do with girls constantly competing with each other. Like those plus sized "friends" got the song wrong. There is even a line in the song for small girls saying that even tho u might feel fat, you are still beautiful. And it is more about learning how to find the positive despite people who are plain b*tches, skinny or not, who bring down bigger people like me. Unfortunately, people are going to be mean cuz other people were mean to them. So all we can do is react in a civil manner and stand up for urself wen the time is right. And also inform people that it is wrong but in a sensitive way. Like a friend posted something on FB how fat acceptance shouldn't happen cuz this one plus size girl died early from a blood clot wen she claimed she was healthy. This is an example of how u should NOT inform people cuz it gives the wrong message and doesn't even have all the info. Like I am fat cuz of hormonal problems not cuz of over eating. I think posting poetry sketches on people who talk about skinny shaming are good. Powerful and short.

@NewRomantic667 - Body shaming of any kind is unacceptable. I think there is often more focus on the harm of fat shaming because it is prevalent not only among what people say to you, but also what society says to you, which is less of an issue with skinny shaming. But, that doesn't change the fact that skinny shaming can be incredibly hurtful, damaging, and cruel.

I actually have a lot of issues with the song All About That Bass (and really most songs by her), despite how darn catchy it is. On top of the fact that it combats fat shaming simply by turning it around and skinny shaming, it also misses the actual point of body positivity. It's OK to have curves not because "boys like a little more booty to hold at night", but because any body is beautiful and good, regardless of what anyone wants to say. Your self worth is defined by who you are, not what you look like or whether or not boys find you attractive. And all bodies are beautiful, regardless of size, shape, color, age, gender, or any other distinction that gets thrown on them.

Body shaming, regardless of its nature is wrong. Body positivity is always better!

One of my work colleagues love to make comments about how thin I am. In my opinion, it is just as insulting as saying how fat someone is.

Hey everyone, I'm definitely glad to have found this thread... I have been feeling absolutely awful lately with being skinny-shamed, and I just don't know how to deal with people (family) anymore. I have always been tall and skinny, and I love food...I seriously snack all day and eat full meals... Well every family member of mine has become determined that I starve myself. I don't enjoy visiting them anymore, because all they do is point at parts of my body and say how gross I am, then they shove fatty food in my face and tell me to eat. They have talked to tons of people in my hometown and told everyone that I'm sick because I'm anorexic, so now I can't return home without feeling that shame. At this point, if I go to visit friends and family, I am constantly pushed food in my face with terribly rude comments about my figure... Recently some of my family showed up in my home and tried to give me thousands of dollars so that I would "start buying food"... They also brought over dinner and later told me it was a test to see if I would eat. (Which of course I had! I took seconds...) I have lost relationships with my dad and sister over them continuously judging me, and now feel so pressured to gain weight. Last time I saw them, they basically called me ugly on several accounts... All this time I have been confident about my body, and now I'm not so sure. My boyfriend of 2 years is wonderful to me and says that I have the perfect, healthy body, and that nothing about my figure should change. - He knows how healthy I am and has stuck up for me everywhere we go. No one else believes what I tell them, my family even demanded doctor's notes after not believing me. And whoever reads this, I PROMISE that I eat so much more than the average person, my metabolism is just incredibly high. How do I deal with this? When convincing people doesn't work, what do you do?

i feel fat But I am to skinny I train twice a day and still not feeling well when other people say some things that hurt me I go eating I don't get fat I hate people c allang other people fat just be the way you are you are beautifull I hope I can believe this myself

I am a skinny girl, and i used to be even skinnier. I have had a lot of insecureties and i have even been bordering on having an eating disorder. This does not mean i dont know i am skinny. So many people commented about my skinny body, and even said its way better to have fat. It wasnt my fault im incredebly skinny. No matter how much i eat i stay skinny. It gave me a really low body image. But no one believed me because i was skinny so i had to be super confident...

I am with @Anomalia 100% about that song. It is wrong at so many levels. I see it as a bad role model. I don't listen to Megan Trainer because she is promoting a very unhealthy attitude and conflict among women (I won't even go into her "dear future husband" song that I accidently watched). We should encourage people to accept who they are and work towards a healthy lifestyle instead of saying we should feel good because we can now collectively put down the other end of the spectrum.

That said, I range on the skinny side. Could be genetics because my dad is tall and skinny guy and I suspect I have taken after him. Now that I am working out, I have been losing some weight and I am working on gaining some lean muscle. But people would say "OMG, you look so thin and lost lot of weight". I am a fairly secure person for most part. I have never had any big body issues. But those comments even get to me. I start worrying about my weight wondering if it is a bad thing that I am losing. Then I have to remind myself to see the "positive" in these comments. Easier said then done. I started eating lot of good fats and proteins. But I agree, these comments that "omg, you are so skinny" could possibly cause people to panic and worry, negatively impacting someone's health.

Skinny shaming is just as bad as fat shaming. And promoting obesity is just as bad as promoting anorexia. Instead we should strive for health - not for looks, but to feel good, live longer and maintain a healthy lifestyle. All my life I've always been "too thin", and I know many have been labeled this too. In this world you will always come across judgemental, jealous or rude people who will do anything they can to tear you down. It's up to you to decide whether you're influenced or not by them. You can never stop the remarks, but you can decide how you feel about them. So the next time someone decides to throw another thin shaming slur, take it as a compliment - because there are millions of girls who would do anything to look like you, your body isn't anyone else's problem.

I've learned that you can never make people happy with your body. There will always be someone to tell you your doin it wrong, I've been there....I am here. I used to be extremely under weight and was picked at by everyone friends family strangers. I have since gained weight and in my opinion look healthy. But as soon as I am confident and comfortable someone made the choice to knock me down and use the words " your getting a little big..." I LOVE my body.

Oh my goodness, I am skinny shamed so much! It's terrible, every day I'll be asked by people if I'm sick or if I have anorexia or if I'm dieting. Sometimes people don't even ask and just assume. They call me unnatural and unhealthy. They think I'm a bad influence on children because apparently I "can't be naturally like this" . And a lot of people seem to care about fat shaming, which is great but then they seem to think that skinny shaming isn't real and it's just a cry for attention. From when we're kids girls told to be skinny but also have a figure. Do people understand how hard that is? I've been thin my whole life and I've always been shaped like a boy. I've been bullied because of my size before, mostly by my own friends. They tell me that I'm ugly and that no one will love me because I'm not attractive. I'm really self conscious now because of my size and my weight. I'm 5'3 and only [edited by forum mentor for weight specifics] pounds. I'm scared to go to the doctor because I don't want them to know how much I weigh. I'm scared to wear a bathing suit because I don't want people to see my ribs. My own family doesn't want to hug me because I'm "to boney". People tell me to eat more, and I try but I've also had digestive problems since birth so it's hard for me to eat to much. It makes people think I have an eating disorder. Also, now that being bigger is more widely accepted, the media is coming out with things about it. I don't like listening to the radio and hearing songs about how I'm a "skinny b*tch" or about how people prefer bigger girls so I'm out of luck. Society is shaming me every day for the way I look and at the same time thin people are still being blamed for making others feel bad about their size. Thin people feel bad about themselves too, not every skinny person feels confident in their body. I feel like I should like myself and yet I can't. I just want to feel normal for who I am, not like some freak who has to hide because I'm "fake".