How mad should I be?
A week ago I was asked to leave my apartment by both roommates. We had an upsetting disagreement, and even though I apologized, I needed to get away, so I asked my aunt to pick me up. She agreed and drove an hour and a half, only to lecture me for an hour and ultimately leave without helping me, despite my efforts to make her understand. She told me she was disappointed I didn't have a job even though I'd lost my job that very morning, she was disappointed I didn't have a therapist even though I'm on several waiting lists, she wanted me to apologize to my roommates and go back, even though I already HAD and they just wanted some time.
I ended up spending the night in the guest room of my landlord, whom I'm also EXTREMELY, extremely blessed to have as a friend. The next day I was able to collect myself and my thoughts, explain myself to my roommates and sleep in my own bed again.
The one really good thing about her visit? It made me realize, later, that I spend too much time trying to justify myself to people who don't care, and I don't need to do that anymore.
But now, a week later, my aunt texted me again. The first thing she did was send me a job in HER area, even though she's made it very clear she's not offering to room with me. She did not apologize for leaving me or not listening to me.
I have no idea how to respond. I'm still so furious with her and dwelling on the event triggered a panic attack. Frankly, I don't want to be close to her after this. We're both adults and she's flaked out on me before, but never in such a severe, hurtful way as this. What should I say?
@Senkimura
I am sorry for you hurt and frustration with your aunt. You asked for her help and it sounds like she wasn't supportive or empathetic towards you when you needed it. Your feelings about what happened are valid because she did let you down when you reached out for support and got nothing more than a lecture and scolding from her. I can understand how it would be difficult to respond to her now. Have you tried writing down what you would really like to say to her? Just letting your emotions flow through you onto paper can be cathartic. Once you have put your feelings on paper, you may have a better idea of the key points and emotions you want to share with her. It may give you a place to start if you wish to respond to her message.