Learn to forgive
How do you forgive people that have been hurting you? My family is not the best but i think they are still okey but, the dissapointmen i have since kids is start to become hater that i can not forgive anymore. They are bad, bad for not realize that they are hurting me emotionly and physicaly, i'm their child why can they said that they wish they could left me like they were talking to a friend? And everytime i just want to be a bit selfish about my owen life metter their hands speak first. But, they aren't that bad either, i don't remember what good things they do for me,probably cuz i hate them so much. Even if it's like that i know that there are still happy moment we have together, and i think they are still can be forgive. So i hope that i could learn to forgive them and we can try to change it back like we use to be. I really appreciated if you could give some advice or one word to heal my broken heart
@Lunaticloppy
Hii there , a warm hug offering for being so courageous to speak up and seek support , so not easy but very much needed ❤
Being with people who don't treat us well but somehow we also share some good moments here and now ,and when they are close knitted , our family , it's so hard . So hard to forgive how they've treated us and made us feel , hard to forgive them for all the pain they've given to us , lowkey hating them but also wanting to forgive them and give them a chance because after all, Family , right? ❤
Nobody should have the right to be unkind to us, not even our family ; it's so important to ensure healthy boundaries
How do you feel about communicating your feelings to them ? Making them realise they've been hurting you, what we don't change , we encourage...it's okay to state our boundaries firm and clear , tell people what behavior/ action we didn't like, give them a chance to rectify and correct them and move forwards , taking our space 😊
Forgiving someone for hurting us is a very difficult thing to do, it's okay to take our time to process the feelings, accept the situation and let go slowly of what we can't change , realizing that having hate in our heart could prevent fostering of love , and we can only make for the positive feelings, when we let go of the negative ones ; but no absolutely no rush, we've been hurt and our feelings are so valid, super okay to take as much as needed, then work on acceptance , letting go and moving on forwards with healthier boundaries and only room for all things love and support and good communication. ❤
Have you checked this 7 cups self help guide on forgiveness ? It might be a little helpful.
I do really commend you for seeking support, forgiving is hard , you're allowed all your time my friend ,no rush , but I hope things get well soon for you . *offering hugs* 🤗
Thank you so much for the word it's really touching my heart (♡˙︶˙♡) after seeing this i feel like i want to lear to forgive my family even more. Really thank you for the courage<3
@Lunaticloppy
Aww, so nice to know 🤗❤ Take your time, always at your pace and comfort. Sending love and strength 🤗❤