My mother fakes depression to "train" me

She only recently admitted it, but my mother has, my entire life, faked depressive spirals to attempt to train me. Like a dog. If I do something she doesn't like, even something small like wearing a blue shirt when she thought I'd look better in red, she has a depressive breakdown to "teach me the effect my actions have on others" I can never complain without her screaming about how sad it makes her and how I'm giving her depression. I honestly don't know what to do, as she twists stories and play victim.