Spying Software???
My parents have most likely installed some spying software on my phone. I have no idea how to get rid of it. Few of my close(at that time) friends have been given the job (or probably only one) to keep an eye on me.. I can't live my life freely since an year or so.. can't even revolt vs them for doing so.. coz the time i suspect they did it was when i was going through a really bad mental situation but i don't think it has changed but now that I know i m being spied on,I just don't express it.. I installed antiviruses they didn't work.. does anyone know smthing that might help??
@oneamongstyou285
im thinking if you restore it to factory, it should take care of it. maybe some one else will chime in?
i hope so. thanks anyway 💗
A factory reset should delete everything on it that shouldn't be there but if you have photos or anything on it you want to keep you'll have to save it to a micro SD card
Have you thought about taking it some place - Best Buy - Staples? They can look for you or could maybe advise you better. It might cost a few bucks but peace of mind is priceless
Seems a good Idea.. Will try that soon. Thank you so much..
@oneamongstyou285
Hey,
Instead of going and deleting the software right away, have you talked to your parents about why they did such a thing?
No point.. Did they consult me before doing such a thing? I wonder if they will even accept it.. moreover if my suspicion is right,the time period they installed it i was really going thru a rough phase.. but installation of this software only helped them to have an eye.. for me it only increased the trouble.. more so because of the people (person?) they have entrusted this responsibility too.. (as i suspect) I have lost more of my peace of mind + privacy now..for abt an year or so bcz of their excess care(or fear? if someone from my frnds myt hv warned em abt my declining mental health)
You see i m th kind of person who believes and knows very well if i fall my fellow runners need not wait for me and stall the run.. rather they should move ahead and have faith in me catching up.. Precisely why i Don't share my prblms with my close ones.. coz them worrying abt my worries only adds another worry to the list..
So i haven't asked and will never ask!! cause everyone feeds me sweet lies than truths.. so i'll find it out on my OWN..
Kust format your phone..it will make it a new phone
Sure👍🏻 Thank you so much..
What do mean by rough times? Did they have reasons to be concerned about your safety?
Well yes acc. to them.. No acc. to me.. It must have been really shocking for them to find out the person who remains so cheerful and funny at home is struggling so much in person and they had no idea of it.. so i don't expect them to do anything else.. moreover the manipulative nature of people i suspect who told them about this.. i wonder if they cud have done any better..
Rough times means a period excess of anxiety, insecurity, social troubles, disappointments from almost everyone in my frnd circle.. and a lot more! not forgetting to mention declining physical health too..
@oneamongstyou285
just, restart your phone and hold the power button and the volume up button until it shows the dev console, and the go down to data wipe and press the power on button btw the vol up/down r the movement buttons, and let it wipe your data then it says complete and then you go back to the first option which is to reboot the system, and then let it reboot,, and the just add ur info back.
Best answer until now.. thanks mate💥🤝🏻
@oneamongstyou285 wdym best answer until now
most detailed..
Am I the only one going to say the obvious?
Paranoia and suspicions. I'm not saying you are wrong, perhaps what you believe is true. However, you really need to find someone you can trust a little, like a therapist, to talk about this, especially as you say your mental health is deteriorating
All the signs are there that you are possibly developing some sort of paranoid condition
Yes I do.. I desperately need someone who is trustworthy, but i am still entirely dependent on my parents & i m just 19!! So to visit a therapist without Letting em know is impossible.. and doing so would fill my parents with more stress.. so that's out of question...
+ One of the most important thing that i Don't want you to miss is.. It's not suspicion anymore.. it's confirmed that i m being spied upon.. the suspicion is who exactly is doing so.. why exactly.. what cud they have possibly said to persuade my parents.. what are they really trying to achieve with it? protecting me or their ownselves? I am not confused on the Whats? the reason of my stress is the WHYs. And since it's been 1.5yrs now.. So i how long would i feed my mind... the this and that both situations, so i am, i hate to say it, but i am jumping to conclusions.. of who why and how..
I don't really feel the therapist would find anything wrong with me if before anything else he asks a software expert to examine my phone..
he would know the root cause of all my problems..
beyond that any mental state that i have developed as you said a paranoid condition.. I will fully acknowledge.. I am not trying to deny that i could be mentally ill
all i am saying is i didn't come here on my own.. i have been forced into this hell of a place by certain people.. & trust me on this.. I am not playing any victim.. i can take this all my life..
i can cure myself without a therapist all i need is a bit of privacy and a bit of focus..
i might never make friends entire of my life.. but i would still live a really happy life.. i might never marry anyone.. but i won't stop myself from enjoying all those stuff which couples do.. I may not trust people.. but i will always without doubt help those whom i see in need.. i may not live life of an ordinary human but i will have experienced everything what an ordinary human does when i wud be taking my last breath..
That's my only but the BIGGEST gain from everything i have been through.
@oneamongstyou285
Your answer doesn't persuade anything
I don't think you have any real evidence that you are being spied upon. Again, you have beliefs which are that people have all sorts of hidden agendas around you, people spying on you, spying devices hidden in your phone... this is classic paranoia and you need to talk about it with someone who can help you
okay that's alright.. tbf to you i can't actually blame you.. but what you are suggesting is exactly what anyone would feel om
the surface.. but trust me I can swear on God before June '21 i never ever felt that EVERYONE (some were there no doubt earlier too) has an agenda vs me.. it's only since then when i hv begun to face such situations that i have realised it.. and the AGENDA is not hidden.. it's quite clear worded.. Give up on your crush or keep facing everything you are facing.. ppl whom i nvr even told abt the girl i liked would come to ask me out of nowhere if everything is okay and some would say don't go after girls focus on studies.. and blah blah what not.. it's all so fresh in my mind..
i m not trying to convince you onto something.. but the things you are saying is perfectly echoing what they do...
they would use my personal stuff against me.. and everytime i would try to tell about this thing to others they would say i have gone mad.. nobody wants to even listen to me.. I have become a reservoir of unending indestructible hatred only bcz of this attitude of people to shut me up coz they themselves are involved in it and don't want to be found out.. i have even caught more than 6 people red handed.. but couldn't do anything coz at the end of day they got access to my everything.. (except brain that's where they lost so much) + are present in my parents' good books..
i am not here to say i am tired sad depressed or things like that.. i m here to let everyone know how disappointed i am with my parents' actions.. how let down i feel due to the people i considered friends? And I don't want to bury any hatchets coz none of those would return me the 1.5 yr i hv lost ,the losses i had to suffer in my academic performances.. i can't even deny the possibility that certain people tried to bring me down as much as they can so they may momentarily surpass me? & The losses i suffered socially.. and also the losses that have left a chronic scar on my mindset..
i wish to be protected from more such losses.. so that even if i m working at 40% efficiency right now..i am still doing quite well..
any further losses and i would begin to lose things too.. that's precisely why now (and not 1.5 yrs ago) i joined 7cups and am Asking the community for help...
I hope you understand.. you seem a nice fellow who sees +vity in every situation but my dear toxic optimism is as lethal as hopeless pessimism..
still thank you so much for listening me out.. i owe you so much of time and patience 💕
@oneamongstyou285 , listen, whatever you have going on in your life, there is a correct and an incorrect way to deal with this entire situation. Even if your parents put some kind of magically undetectable "spying software" in your phone, what do you think will happen if you somehow manage to remove it? Of course they will know what you did, and the underlying causes will remain there.
If you parents did place that "spying software" in the phone, it's because they are somehow worried about you. That's what you should be focusing on, and that is also the main reason why you speak to them over all of this. That's the key factor here, and I hope you can understand it.
(first of All i m 18yrs old to make things easier to understand)
1) I did everything the right way for 15months
2) It's not magical! just that I am no software expert but anyone who is can detect it easily.
3)I will get another chance to have my privacy.. i will put a lock in it install an antivirus won't let them do anything again
4)I know they'll be informed if i did so.. but that hardly matters
5)yes, all this while i only worked to find what has led them to be so worried abt me.. reached only 1 conclusion.. tell me who doesn't go through betrayals by friends, cheating by girlfriend, etc in their lives.. but not everyone's frends go(or betrayers themselves go to ensure my side of story is never heard the right way) and inform their frnd's parents abt it.. while offering them one and only way to SAVE him by putting a spying software?
6)No point speaking abt it.. you want me to go to my parents and say.. i doubt you two have installed a spying software in my phone and entrusted one of my OLD friends with it.. who has typically misused it in every possible way to have his/her revenge on me for something I don't even know.. by bringing me down socially, breaking me into pieces mentally and consequently weakening me physically?
They have been tricked into a false promise.. they are no different than me.. other than the fact they are too pure and innocent to understand the toxic people i have had to deal with.. telling them all this would mean them feeling the guilt while the real culprits might be enjoying their lives while they have stalled my growth for more than year (it hurts even more when. All these years you wud try to help each one of them out in their academic stuff and now they do this to you..)
PS- i was just clearing all the junk files in my phone before finally preparing to do a factory reset as suggested by some.. and what happened might surprise you.. Usually i would have around 40+ GB int'l storage used by system but when I started to clear it all even tho i delete and moved stuff less than a GB including never seen before extension files.. my storage dropped to 30GB.. it would always show in other files section in Device care menu with no way to delete but it has been deleted now.. only time will tell if it's what I am thinking.. anyways I have still done a factory reset.. using new accounts for almost everything..
Regardless of what you make of my decisions,thank you for taking time out to reply me💕