Sharing everything

Hi all,

I'd like to start by saying that I have the privilege of having a healthy family dynamic. I love each and every member and we get along most of the time.

However lately there's been something bothering me that I can't tell if I'm being selfish about it or if my feelings are actually valid. The situation revolves around the fact that my elder sister and I are both graduating this year. My sister is graduating medical school, which she's worked very hard for and I am infinitely proud of her. I however am graduating from another healthcare related field.

Now we'll be sharing our graduation party. Normally I'm very easygoing about sharing things with my sister. I had almost all hand-me-downs growing up and we even shared a party for my highschool grad and her undergrad (which were online). What bothers me this time is that it means a lot to me to be graduating uni/college since I had a really rough time at certain points and honestly almost wanted to drop out. But I feel like everyone's reaction towards me is very mild co.pared to what my sister is getting. People are already congratulating her and asking her advise on a bunch of stuff. But no ones really done anything about me... when I saw one of my uncles he was asking my parents to ask my sister something and I answered, but he said I'd be useless to him since I wasn't a doctor. Although it was a joke it really hurt me since it feels like everything I try and play up my role everyone plays it down or brushes me off in favor of my sister. I'm scared that if we do share this party I'm going to be set aside in favor of celebrating her. It's an insecurity of mine that I hate since my sister is AMAZING and she's been my idol for as long as I can remember, but everyone's reaction is just making me so frustrated and down on myself.

If anyone has any advice on what to do or how to deal with my feelings, that would be helpful.

Thanks y'all.