He abandoned us
For many years, another friend and I were very close with someone who was in our circle of friends. Some years back, he moved to the outskirts of town for a while and joined a new church. Since then he’s met a new group of people and has lost is interest. Every time we try to invite him to do things, he lies to us. If we reach out, he ghosts us or says hi but doesn’t really tell us what’s going on in his life. However, another friend of mine is a part of that group and he seems to make time for him.
He recently led me around about coming to my Thanksgiving event and that built my hopes us. So my friend and I reached out to him, and tried to invite him. Well he told us that he is going to he out of town for two months. That’s a bunch of crap.
I am upset with him because there was a time in his life where he didn’t have any friends and got rejected a lot. He also complained about people doing the same thing to him. Then he turns around and pulls this.
I just really feel like he used us until his dream friends came along.
@Summershy
i know it seldom gets said but i feel many times when people are going thru things in life ....... good or bad they often associate those around them as part of it....
For example i had a very Toxic job .... toxic to me ...but others seemed fine ... they were great people but i never kept in touch like i said .........not about them but they were part of a time i wanted to let go and forget.... when i think of best times i see those who were there as well i have tried to reconnect to those folks and they are in different paths and the connection is awkward and not what it was....
Maybe he is going through something with his new friends at the moment .... and lying about his reasons are trying to spare your feelings ..... let him go and if he returns realize he was growing in the time apart
Thanks for your kind words and yes we decided to let him go as well. Now I am happy for him because when we first started drifting apart, he shared all his pictures and cool memories. It sounds like he is pretty happy with them.
On the other hand, I feel like he blew us off because I feel like we did a lot for him and were there for him. Yet, it’s like he doesn’t get it.
I am also mad at him because at no time did he ever express his interest in introducing us to his new friends. Therefore, I feel left out.
@Summershy
Have there ever been others in your life that helped you or gave you more in a friendship then you gave in return?
i know the feeling you are expressing and it does suck you want to be included and continue on but that may be his journey not yours ... i have a few people in my life that in the end did more for me then the other way around some it has been awhile and i do not know how to tell them thanks now after time has gone by.
Yes, I have had people be there for me and offer more in return that I could offer. I have also never thought that this was a part of his path. You’re right, he needs to follow his own path.
@toughTiger6481
I prayed about it and gave him back to God and since then, I have been able to let my friend go and just enjoy the people in my life now. Since then, I haven't felt so angry and hurt because he let me down
