How to Find Your People
"We don’t teach people how to do this, how to create friendships, how to nurture them, how to choose better, and then when and how to end them if they’re not working. And because of that, so many of us are just fumbling around, hoping one day we’ll stumble into the friendships of our dreams because we want them, because we deserve them.
Here are some places to start:
Message someone you constantly interact with online.
If you’re on social media or in any groups online, odds are you have someone who always replies to you, sends you messages, or likes all your posts. These are a lot of subtle interactions that could easily turn into “dude, we should be friends maybe?” messages. So why not try?
Write to a mutual friend who you’ve always felt like you’d get along with.
You already have your friend in common, so it’s worth it to see if you’d get along when it’s just the two of you.
Go to a dog park.
Dog or not, dog parks are such great ways to meet other really friendly people. We might not become best friends just because our dogs played together for 10 minutes, but it can satisfy that need for connection in a really beautiful way.
Go to shows or restaurants alone.
If the idea of this terrifies you, it’s so helpful to see this less as, “Oh no, I’m gonna look like a loser who is alone” and more like, “What if I meet another cool person who is also there alone and we bond, and because I went alone, I created space for that to happen?”
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✨Takeaway: Building friendships takes time and effort. It's important to be patient and not give up too quickly. Quality is more important than quantity when it comes to friendships.
✨Reflection: What are some qualities you value in a friend?
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@innateJoy9602
Oooh so many qualities to look for haha! I'll pick my top favorites!
Authenticity~
Loyalty~
Good sense of humor~
What's the word for "someone who sees your potential even when you don't and pushes you to do your best and become your bestest version possible always"~
Another word for "understands personal boundaries, finds silence comfortable, doesn't take isolating phases personal to them"~ xD
Someone who brings my best version out while being non-judgmental and compassionate with the lesser-nice versions haha~
Oh yes, I have someone in mind when I pen down all of these qualities!🥰
How about you, Joy? :P
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
So many awesome qualities!
Hmm. I think personal “cheerleader” comes close for someone who motivates you!
I would go for a “mindful” person for the next word haha! It’s close enough :p
My favorite qualities are empathetic, loyal, understanding, and compassionate!💜
@innateJoy9602 Haha yes a personal cheerleader, definitely comes close lol, smart Joy!😛
I love these qualities, so basic in a friend fosho, and specially when you are all of these and so many amazing qualities yourself!💜
@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Awhhh thank you sun!! <3
You are all of these x1000000!!!💜💜
@innateJoy9602 Aww always being the sweetest Joy! 💜💜
@innateJoy9602
Has anyone in their whole life ever met anyone by using these methods? It seems that the people coming up with these are just pulling them out of thin air rather than passing on personal knowledge.
Message someone you know online.
Write to a mutual friend
Go to a dog park.
Go to shows or restaurants alone.
What are some qualities you value in a friend? I don’t evaluate people for certain attributes before befriending them. I either like you or I don’t.
