I have no friends and I don't know what to do...
This is kind of an embarrassing post but, I don't know how to make friends, and I feel so alone.
I live in a small town (the closest Walmart is 20 minutes out of town), and my house is far away from other houses. Along with that, I do online school, so realistically I have no way to make friends. My parents tell me to just go knock on a neighbor's door and see if they have kids my age, but they don't realize that's not really how making friends works these days.
I've had such little interaction with people for the last three years, that I don't even know what friendship feels like anymore. In elementary I had extremely deep bonds with multiple people, (I'm a sophomore now) but ever since we moved I forgot what that feels like. I can't hang out around anyone without feeling hyper-aware of how I look, act, talk, etc. I can't even be comfortable enough with someone to become friends with them.
I'm so socially stunted, and I'm not sure what to do, my social skills are still that of a sixth grader. I have ONE in-person class, and I feel like it's my last hope, but I also don't know how to bring that relationship outside of the classroom if I succeed in making a friend. How do I get someone to hang out with me outside of that one school class? And without making it awkward?
How do I make friends in my situation? Any tips are GREATLY appreciated.
P.S. I don't have a phone, so I'm not sure if that might make it harder to communicate outside of a classroom with others if I want to potentially hang out.
@Callalily0
ten days later.
Hello, INTP. I’m one much older INFJ!
I like watching k-dramas as well and like you, Strangers From *** is one of my top favourites (THIS DAM TWIST IN THE END WAS JUST WOW).
I’m afraid that I don’t have any friendship-like tips to pass on. I used to be where you’re standing right now and at some point, I decided to let it be. Perhaps not the best advice, but it is okay to be anxious and self-aware and uncomfortable; they’re part of us, they just aren’t who we are.
My approach back then was not very conventional, so I believe I’m not in the position to give someone related advice, but I could suggest you might see people more as acquaintances than friends in your current situation.
It could possibly help you.
I’m sorry for not offering a vase of great advice but you’ve got my ultimate support. I’m here rooting for you (for real). I just really wanted to tell you that it gets better than this…
I’ll always be here for you (as like many other Listeners) and obviously always available if you want to talk about the latest K-dramas or anything else.