Feeling lonely
Hello šš»
iāve been struggling with anxiety and depression since i was a teen. I just turned 30 a few weeks ago and i have no real friends.
i lost a lot of my friends when i left school and everyone went their own way and ive never really stuck with any new ones.
i had a couple āfriendsā for a while but i would only see them once or twice a year and they would only talk to me if i messaged them first. (I used the old āif they wanted to reach out to you they would and most of them didntā¦..š)
it gets really lonely not having anyone to talk to. I do have a boyfriend (somehow š) but it would be nice to have someone else to spend time with or even just a long distance online āpen palā to chat to.
Hi,
Nice to meet you, be positive be happy, sensitive and intelligent people always struggle with anxiety and depression.
@LonelyGinger93
I know that many of us have used that old line if they wanted to reach out etc... but in real life perhaps they too feel a need but many simply do not call or text or message because they fear others are too busy , won't remember etc.
i reached out to some old friend to reconnect and although we do not see or talk often enough one i talk or text about once a week .... it is good as they knew me for a long time and can see how i changed or remind me of the things i did well when i was doing them etc.
Unfortunately ive tried reaching out to multiple people over the years and they made it fairly obvious that they donāt really care and just exchange basic pleasantries etcā¦ š
id like to make some new friends but i think the paranoia caused by so many āfriendsā in my youth werenāt really my friends makes it hard for me to trust people. I also dont get out much at the moment so canāt really go out to meet new people eitherā¦
@LonelyGinger93
It is hard ... just this week i met a friend of a friend felt like a job interview lol
i guess i will see how it goes.
hey, I don't know how to help, but I'm in the same situation, so I know the feeling. Don't give up, you are not alone!
True friendship need a lot of efforts, communication and understanding from both sides, I reckon. What kinds of topics would you chat with new friends? Iāve found myself losing communication skills nowadays~
best of luck
I turned 40 in May and havenāt had any close friends for years. Acquaintances, people Iāve met in treatments or at work. My anxiety and depression, not to mention personal history, keeps me distant from others. Iām afraid that Iāll just mess things up or worse, hurt someone. Iām also afraid I simply have nothing to offer others, that Iām not enough or too selfish. So I stay safe, hiddenā¦and so terribly lonely.
And it always breaks my heart to see and hear that others feel the same way, so many others because I feel like they canāt possibly be as damaged or awful as me.
Hi :) i understands you. I'm an introverted which is not sĆ³ easy to make friends. Do you like to chat? :)
I red all the messages here...Feeling lonely too, and willing to be "pen friends" with all of you. But I do not know how it can be done in this app, as I'm new here and still do not know how it works.
Meanwhile, I send you all, friendly hugs from Spain, to you all. š¤
Ohhhh sorry, I feel lonely too.
Hi~ Same here~
I turned 27 last week, not much friends.
I'm very introverted but I would love someone to write to.
Even tho we won't know eachother but just chatting and someone you can confide to.
Anyone here would be interested?
I would be willing to chat with you or others (as all here seem nice people) ...as you said its nice to be able to chat with someone that you could rely on.
Friendly hug from Spain.
I would be happy to chat.
