Finding friends
Okay so hello, I'm new here and trying to figure out how this app works.
Since this is anonymous anyway, I'll be honest. I don't have any friends. And I've been dealing with loneliness lately. I also have some other mental health issues, but for a few months, loneliness has been making me anxious and restless.
I did have a few friends when I was in school. But then we stopped talking after school ended and I couldn't make any friends in college. I have always been a very quiet person, I am an introvert so I likes to be alone, I still do. But having this feeling that there's no one in the world who I can talk freely about anything makes me feel lonely. And yeah, seeing others have friends and many people around them and being able to talk freely without being on edge all the time, makes me feel worse. And jealous too, which I hate.
So, I guess I'm writing this here in hope of finding friends. I don't need dozens of friends, having even one would be more than enough. In this post, I could have just said simply that I want friends but I think that mostly leads to not finding the friends I'd want. So I honestly wrote my feelings and thoughts. If you read this and wants to be my friend, reply. I would prefer to have actual friends. So only reply if you really are willing to be friends and not just message me for a while to kill time.
Okay, that's all. Take care.
Hey
Finding someone with the same feelings you have is gorgeous.
Am also a home alone person even though there is people in my home my mom is just busy and when I talk to her she is annoyed. And I have no school because am in an online class and that's frustrating me I don't have a consistency for studying I study 1 week fully and then I become lazy to study the next week and I forget everything the next week ughhh.. and my mom doesn't tell me to study or anything she has I job and is in her world am not bad mouthing her but everyday there's a fight and I cry and who am I gonna tell this and I feel am annoying people when I talk to them .
I not hear to say aww you don't have frnds let me be the one and kill time and go .
I actually want an offline frnd to give a hug though my mom doesn't like physical touch but can talk deep like in woods I don't know what am telling but though it's anonymous I can.
And I would really like to hear what an actual mentally illness is because each of my frnd had said am mad or crazy in a funny way or idk.but recently I heard my mother say to my dad am mentally ill idk and yesterday when I was scolding my 4yr brother for forgetting where he kept his books my mother said am a physco .idk all I have now to love me is my imaginary boyfrnd and GOD and myself .
You can call me your frnd if am fit for it .
I didn't write an essay to make you believe or realize or anything I wrote my thoughts.
And there are people who have even worse than yours be strong dearð«¶
Hey am I annoying idk I feel annoyed by my surroundings my 4yr old brother loves and I too buy he sometimes annoys me with his blah blahs like I annoy my mother ugh.. bro/sis I can I know am talking too much but I can't stop .when I see there's someone I can talk to I talk too much with no boundaries I talk to them like I have known them for atleast half of my life .😭I always have cring memories with all .am sorry If I talked too much I want to talk listen response with response but I...my mother always used to say people who talk too much are chatter box and it bad thing but I love talking and when I cry my father used to say stop those fake tears and so I feel am faking everything that am faking this frndship am talking to kill time no I ain't but am I? Why am I acting while nobody is watching why ? I have millions of questions with 0 answers.
Am I mental I asked my pillow my bed my mirror my bedroom bit nobody replied nobody I know am annoying you for real know but just like response so that I can understand u saw it or read it even though maybe you didn't am not bad mouthing you no I said to much but I still have a million .I know maybe u were busy that's why u haven't seen my 1st respond but my hands doesn't stop typing I so badly need a hug till my tears fade away maybe for an hour not my pillow it doesn't have a heart beat I need warmth😭😭my mother when I touch her she doesn't like it I have her scratch mark on my hand still now . And noo am stopping now ..
-Anu
Hey, Anu (can I call you Anu, or Ananya? You can let me know what you want me to call you)
Thank you for replying.
You are not annoying me. I'm so sorry, I didn't reply because I didn't see your reply, I don't know, I thought it would give notification but I didn't get any 😭.
Yes, we can be friends.
Yeah I feel the same, I also would like to have offline friends but it's very difficult for me to make offline friends so I'm trying online now...
You can talk to me about your feelings. Being a chatterbox isn't necessarily a bad thing. I can relate to you a bit. I also used to talk a lot in my childhood and people called me chatterbox too (they didn't use this exact word but kinda similar) and maybe that's the reason I started talking less and less, and then those same people now started to call me "way too quiet", all this just made me just a socially awkward and anxious person.
So yeah you can talk to me. We can be friends. Take care
Ya you can call me Anu and it nice to be your frnd .
I usually open this app when I feel overwhelmed but today I opened it to see if you replied 😂.
And am happy you responsed .
What can I call you .
And I would like to know more about you .
And did you consult a doctor or did you assume that you have mental problems . Bro /sis just remember that there is no normal human beings in the world.
Do you watch Anime ?
-Anu
Hey Anu,
It's nice to be your friend too. I'm also happy you responded 😊
You can just call me Echo for now, not my real name of course (because I am worried of someone I know in real life finding me online 😭) but you can call me Echo
About mental health, I've not consulted a doctor yet. When I wrote mental health issues in my post, I kinda just meant some things that affect me a lot, of course I can't be sure if what it is since I never had a real diagnosis
Yeah, I do watch anime, I have been for years. Do you also watch anime?
Take care
So you just assume you may have mental issue but I think your are way too normal for me yes nobody is perfect or normal but you are alright my buddy.
Ya I understand and I will call you echo bro😭.
Ya I watched anime have you watched ONE PIECE BROO..
-Anu
I don't know about what mental issues but there's definitely something wrong that I need to go to a therapist or something
I have not watched one piece yet. It's so long 😭. And I don't have much motivation. The most anime I watched were like in 2019. After that I have barely watched 5 anime
Hey.
I was typing to you when I felt overwhelmed few hrs ago .and then suddenly I had to go somewhere and the thing I typed disappeared and so my overwhelming also disappeared 🙃.
And how are you feeling now. Do you have classes .
Idk if seeing therapist cure your problem idk .but am not bad mouthing but my mother is a therapistand psychologist and she says I have anxiety and doesn't like touching me or I think her love language is action she does good things but my love language is touching giving hug .
And I also love psychology but I took commerce so I can't be a psychologist now and idk like science much.
One piece is the only anime I have watched I only reached 800ep something only and now I have to study so I took a break .it a very beautiful anime you learn many things from it I love it . I recomend you to watch it bro.just watch a few episodes you will get addicted. And it is the best motivation also and also you can study Japanese. I want to watch other anime also but 1st I want to finish the anime I started😂😭 when I watched I didn't to it had infinity episodes 😂I love it must watch bro if you have time bro...
Hey,
Yeah, there should be auto-save here. How are you feeling now? Feeling better? And again I don't get notifications, so I didn't see your reply..
I'm feeling better now. That day when I made that original post, I was feeling overwhelmed but I feel relaxed now. Something has happened that day that made me feel kinda empty. But it's fine now. I don't have classes right now. It's summer vacation.
Yeah that's why I'm scared to actually see a therapist. But my sister said most therapist are good and I can change to a new one if I don't like one. I think it depends on the person. Do you get overwhelmed because of your mom?
I think it's still possible to be a psychologist even if you took commerce. I am not informed about this but if you really want to, you can search if there are any ways.
Yeah I've heard that one piece is great. But I don't have time to watch it. But I maybe will someday. I have watched Naruto. And when I started watching it years ago in 2019, I didn't know much about anime or how many episodes it has. If I knew it has 720 episodes, maybe I wouldn't have watched it. And I watched fillers too..haha
Take care
Hey echo I have a doubt what is flirting?
Is flirting talking about non original topic with great Intereset to a stanger instead of blocking or ignoring is it flirting bro .
If it is then my mom is flirting 🙃.
Bro this is difficult I know am vomiting each and every thing to you but I can't hold these things in my mind .
Today as usual my mother scolded me after her coming from work .idk maybe she was hungry that's why and shouts .today I cried twice so maybe that's why am not crying thrice 😭.but my heart is crying bro am not acting.
And today my brother asked how the paper door handling broke I didn't say anything (actually it was broken by my mother purposefully while fighting .
Years before she used to fight me with her hands but now I feel she is piercing me with a knife in my heart . Bro am not bad mouthing her I love her
I feel annoyed when I hear my brothers sound of says some blah blah to himself but I love him I don't want to get annoyed now am hearing music in headset.
Bye🙃..
@Anu00mettu
Hey, Anu.
You don't have to worry, it's not vomiting. You can say what you want.
About flirting, I'm not really sure. I think it depends on the person's intentions.
If something your mom does or says that makes me hurt then you can say that it hurt you. It's not really bad mouthing. And it doesn't mean you don't love her. You don't have to feel guilty or bad.
Btw, do you live with just your mom? Anyone else in your family who you can talk to about your mom? It might help. But yeah you can talk to me too, venting can help. I'm not good at talking so I might not know what exactly to say but I can listen
Take care
Ya in my home me mother and my 4yr brother is there and my dad is abroad.
Idk if it's flirting either .this is something my mom told me( that a guy messaged her I think so he is young not my mothers age .and she said that that guy asked my mom recharge his phone and my mother asked him is he that poor or something like that and he said that my mothers DP picture looks like a police officer and she is very happy after hearing that idk. She said something else I got annoyed and didn't listen .if my father knew this there will be fight. My mother is more sticter than dad. But idk I didn't like her chatting but there is no value for my words.
Imagine if that guy was talking to me and my mom found out it's going to be a huge mess.
Kids learn from there parents is this a thing I can learn from her NO...🙃bro
@Anu00mettu
So your dad is in abroad. Still, when he visits home or if you talk to him on phone, you can talk to him about your mom, right. Not this flirting thing, just about how you get overwhelmed by your mom. Having someone you can talk to would be nice
@Echo62826 Hey, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this. Everything you wrote is so valid and honestly, so common- more than most people admit. Making friends as an adult is really hard, especially when you're introverted or have dealt with anxiety and other mental health stuff. You’re not weird or broken for feeling this way. A lot of people are quietly going through the same thing, and it takes real courage to put it into words like you just did.
I know what it’s like to feel like everyone else has their people, and you’re on the outside looking in. But you’re not alone here. For what it’s worth- you’ve got a friend in me. I mean that. If you ever want to talk, vent, share random thoughts, or just exist next to someone without pressure, I’m here. Take care of yourself, truly. You deserve kindness and connection, and I hope you find it here. 🫶
Hello, Thank you for your kind words 😊. I see you're a listener, maybe I will talk to you sometime
Hlo ... Same condition here.
@goodfriendseeker
Hello 🤗, do you want to be friends. Also are you new here or you've been using 7cups for a while now
Hi
I’ve also struggle to make friends. I’m shy and an introvert as well, and been feeling lonely for quite a bit. It’d be nice if we could be friends. I gotta be honest, I’m not good at socializing and also struggle with mental health issues. Anyways, I’d appreciate you if you also wanna try to be friends. Peace out
Hi
I’ve also struggle to make friends. I’m shy and an introvert as well, and been feeling lonely for quite a bit. It’d be nice if we could be friends. I gotta be honest, I’m not good at socializing and also struggle with mental health issues. Anyways, I’d appreciate you if you also wanna try to be friends. Peace out
@determinedTalker2854
Hi,
Yes, sounds like we are pretty similar . I'm also not good at socializing, so most of the times when I try to talk, it just makes me feel awkward...Yeah, I'd like to try being friends. Also, do you talk to people here often
Take care
@determinedTalker2854
@Echo62826
Hi, I apologize I’ve been away for a bit. I’m kinda struggling, I had to quit my job cause it was feeling very overwhelming and I couldn’t keep up with it. I appreciate you replied to me. I don’t quite get this app yet, I didn’t see the notification for the comment. Anyways, I’m excited to get to know you, I haven’t really talk to anyone in here tbh, hbu?
Omg we are really similar, we can be friends, ik i am younger than you but it's alright *** , I just joined today so looking forward to talk more, take care!
Reading your words felt like reading my own thoughts. I’ve been through this exact loneliness too no close friends, no one to talk to freely, feeling jealous and then guilty for it. I always thought something was wrong with me. But seeing your post reminded me I’m not the only one feeling this way. I don’t have all the answers, but I’d genuinely like to be your friend not just for a chat, but like, actually be there and listen. No fake small talk. Just honesty. If you’re okay with that, I’d really like to stay connected.
@SilentAnchorForYou
Hey, I just saw your reply. 7 cups doesn't give notifications unless person gets tagged I think? So I always miss replies. And most times when I try to tag someone, the tag doesn't really work, I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong idk (not sure if it'll work right now either so maybe you won't get notification of my reply either... but hopefully tag atleast works)
Thank you for your reply. I have never met anyone, real life or online, with very similar thoughts and situation as me so that always just ends up making me feel more alone. I would like to stay connected too, reply. I just find it a bit difficult to talk here..
Reading your words felt like reading my own thoughts. I’ve been through this exact loneliness too no close friends, no one to talk to freely, feeling jealous and then guilty for it. I always thought something was wrong with me. But seeing your post reminded me I’m not the only one feeling this way. I don’t have all the answers, but I’d genuinely like to be your friend not just for a chat, but like, actually be there and listen. No fake small talk. Just honesty. If you’re okay with that, I’d really like to stay connected.
@SilentAnchorForYou
Hey, I just saw your reply. 7 cups doesn't give notifications unless person gets tagged I think? So I always miss replies. And most times when I try to tag someone, the tag doesn't really work, I'm not sure if I'm doing something wrong idk (not sure if it'll work right now either so maybe you won't get notification of my reply either... but hopefully tag atleast works)
Thank you for your reply. I have never met anyone, real life or offline, with very similar thoughts and situation as me so that always just ends up making me feel more alone. I would like to stay connected too, reply. I just find it a bit difficult to talk here..😅
@Echo62826 hey if you're seeing this then please reach out to me on ***: Xin's_Ghost
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