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Is it normal to regret cutting someone off, even if you know it's likely the best option?

User Profile: calmLunch9427
calmLunch9427 July 2nd, 2025

I caught limerence for a friend (it's like a person addiction, usually in people with low self esteem and neglectful upbringings iirc, which I both have) it was messy, and I made a lotta mistakes and ended up hurting them

They asked for space in October of last year, and haven't responded since then. I sent a lotta panicked messages, acting on the anxiety it all caused me, when I should've been working on myself. I have 17 years of untreated ADHD, so the emotional dysregulation and impulsiveness are going to be there, still, I know I should've done better

Recently, I decided to send them a message, even if they don't respond, that I was blocking or ignoring them because I felt it was the best decision. Explained what limerence was, and even gave them my number if they wanted to contact me again

In the back of my mind, I do feel this is best decision. Even if I waited for a response from them, I've been incredibly anxious for months now because of this limerence, and I didn't wanna deal with it anymore. Prioritize my own needs so the situation didn't hold me back any more

I just wanna know if it's okay to feel a little bit of regret, even if those feelings may just be the limerence. Am I allowed to mourn a friendship that I feel like I messed up? I know these are feelings I can't exactly control, but I still blame myself for it all

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User Profile: BeAlive97
BeAlive97 July 3rd, 2025
@calmLunch9427 It's okay to be sad sometimes, my friend. We can't keep everything hidden in the end. In the end, it doesn't matter what went wrong. What matters is that we learn from it.