Is she self-absorbed?
I hate to write this because this feels like back *** but tbh i dont know what else to do, i dont have the courage to talk to her directly as this can ruin our friendship and she is like the only friend i have and also, i dont think she’ll improve.
So basically, i have a bsf for 3 years and i think that sometimes she can be full of herself, she doesn’t really value my efforts. 2 years ago she told me that no one has ever gifted her roses and i did not know where to find em so i MADE origami roses for her just to hear the same statement 2 days later, and when i told her that i gave you hand-made roses, she says its different, they werent even real.
Similarly, she lives far from me and i jokingly ask her what she’ll gift me on my birthday (which is the wuestion she starts asking 1 month before her birthday btw), she said you didnt even give me anything on my birthday and i felt so bad because i posted 4 stories, one whole post dedicated to her on her birthday, a usual letter and i made a whole freaking website to wish her happy birthday which took me more than 15 days to make and to hear that sentence really hurt after all these efforts.
And another incident, when i first got my iphone 17 pro, i was over the moon because i always wanted it. She was the first person whom i told about it. I was literally jumping out of excitement and when i sent her the pic and told her that i got a new iphone all she said was ‘its nice’ and it really breaks me that im always happy for her but that’s her reaction for the thing i was so excited about.
@proactiveCherry3853
It doesn't make you selfish to want the same for yourself 💛
Friendships should be reciprocal.
You deserve the same energy back that you have given them.
They are not above you 🩷
@proactiveCherry3853
Ahh your efforts are really appreciated i had experienced this too so i know how does it feel actually.
If you don't mind i want to ask a question for asking yourself , Is she became changed recently or that's how she behave with you from the beginning? what do you think? Mine was changed after 5years of our friendship but at the beginning she wasn't like this.
No actually she’s like this from the start. I first ignored it and thought of it as something funny but im not sure now. I also once told her about how i was SA’ed and she her first response was, ‘woah, does that mean you’ve had sex?’ 🙂
And btw im so sorry to hear abt you, why did she change after 5 years? Did you talk to her? Are you guys still friends?
I am really sorry to hearing that ,i don't know what else i should tell you..I'm sorry again but maybe it can't be a sign of concerned friends
Huhh😮💨 idk why did she became changed suddenly but i suffer a lot from it bcz she's the most closest friend of mine and yeah we are still friends (counting this year it will be 6 yrs) and i didn't told her that i got hurt from these typo behaviour
Oh, i totally get you 🫠. Im sorry too!!
Sending hugs 🙂🫶✨
Thanks for your hugs and same to you 🫂
I just amazed after reading your post , i mean the efforts you gave for her birthday!...girl you deserve a lot of compliments . Sometimes i wondered why same type of people won't find each other for friendship🥲