Is something wrong with me?
Hi, I'm Kay(f17) and I have no friends (other than my boyfriend). A year and a half ago I lost my first friend made in high school after moving across the country. We can call them S/P. S was a great friend and someone who I wanted to spend a lot of time with, they were nice and open to almost anything. About a year into our friendship they started socially transitioning (ftm) and going by the name P, after the beginning of there transition they became very aggressive and blaming straight up SA and emotional abuse and many other things on their autism and gender disphoria. I am not trying to say these personality changes were because of the transition or autism but there was a correlation. After I confronted them on how I was feeling about the way they were treating me and touching me inappropriatly they said I "never had an issue with it before" and blamed all of my discomfort on me. After I blocked them out I had a few months long breakdown from losing a good friend and the threats they sent me. I was shunned by many students at school.
I have had many friends do this where they go from being the sweetest person ever then turning around and treating me like ***. I'm a nice person and try to treat everyone how they want to be treated but when I have an issue (physical or mental) I'm the bad guy and I was the one who "changed". I feel like this has happened since I was little and I don't know why.
I currently have no friends besides my boyfriend because I am antisocial and feel almost traumatized from the repeated abuse Ihave gone through being treated poorly by people I thought I could trust.
Can someone give me advice or tell me what they think, because I need help.
@Green0verthinker7
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Im sorry you were through this.
Sadly, most people instead of simply apologising for their actions, deflect and blame others.
Its easier then facing up to the truth.
But dont stop being you and being nice, the wrong people take it for granted but the right people will give you back the same energy that you give them.
Don't ever forget you are a good person 💜💕
@Green0verthinker7
This is a terrible situation, and of course, I'm sorry that you went through these situations. These people were not kind and did not behave adequately. But your question has the answer. You behaved the way it was convenient for them. People are selfish, and if someone behaves with them to please them, then this quickly becomes the standard. And then any deviation is perceived as a given. At the same time, such people want to be around such a type of person as you. And that's why it is doubly dangerous. Of course, you need to recover and stop thinking about them, they were terrible and do not deserve anything from you. But it is also important for you to always maintain yourself as you are. Do not infringe on your rights for the sake of someone. You are valuable not because someone evaluates your behavior, but because you are you, with your uniqueness. And you do not have to like everyone, this is normal. So I wish you all the best and hang in there!