What Are Your Slightly Silly Red Flags For Friendships/Relationships?
Dudes who spit into bushes. Ew.
Guys who haven't picked up a book in decades.
People who say that I'm their only friend or the only one who understands them.
Dudes who are addicted to sports.
Guys who don't know how to relax and have fun!
What are yours??? Keep it light and kind <3
@jesusredeemedme2425
im a lil curious to know what makes "People who say that I'm their only friend or the only one who understands them." a red flag for you? if you comfy to share more about it?
mhm and things i find red flags in people usually are when they are gaslighting, manipulative, liars, love-bombers or those who speak very kindly but then in time their mask comes off and it was all for show :/ not genuine, people who are invalidating and insensitive, people who treat people who don't seem to have any benefit for them poorly...like when someone is rude to the staff at a restaurant etc :/, people who play victim card ... people who try to take advantage of my empathy and politeness ... so many 😅
@Optimisticempath
There’s multiple reasons… There could be a legitimate reason why they don’t really have friends (abuse and such may be a reason… I had a guy like that in my life.). It could also breed an unhealthy dependence on you.
I tend to be a love-bomber, but it’s nothing negative, I feel. I just love hard. I know what it’s like to not be loved or wanted, and I refuse to let anyone feel like that again. <3
@jesusredeemedme2425
heyyy :) just a note that to me loving hard and love-bombing are very different.. at least in the sense I've heard it.. love bombing is manipulative, ingenuine, to take advantage, control the other person.. its not the same as loving a lot
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/love-bombing
@jesusredeemedme2425
that makes sense, thanks for sharing more <3
by the conventional definition of it I see love bombing as a red flag thing because it's when people show a lot of love or do these extra vagant gestures and such in the beginning but it's not genuine and mostly has an agenda ... but i understand that you aren't meaning it in its actual sense and are someone so full of love and go all the way in about it for people you care about... latter is a great thing and I hope you have people who go all in and consistently for you too <3
@Optimisticempath
Awww you guys are the sweetest!!! Thank you for validating me :')
@jesusredeemedme2425
Silly relationship flags, let's see...
Chicks that are too interested in celebrity news
Kinda sucks when a girl I'm with constantly insists that she's "fat" or "ugly" right after I compliment her looks. I mean, I understand on a level, it just makes me feel a little helpless after a certain point.
Crocs. Crocs are a red flag.
When she immediately wants to add me on every social media right when we start going out
Gossiping. Not into that at all.
If she is reading through the comments on a *** video and doesn't seem to mind the same 5-10 second annoying song looping as the video keeps replaying the entire time until she's done. 😡 Yes, a very specific red flag lol
@Torean
Uh, what got bleeped out was ***. I feel like that's important to know.
@Torean
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It's T. I. K. T. O. And you know the last letter. That app. With all the videos.
@Torean
YES
Ok, I do that. I have low self-esteem. I need reassurance. I admit my faults here. Lol
WHY DO PEOPLE WEAR CROCS????
Idk
Yeah, she’ll gossip ABOUT you too
YOOOOOO my coworkers do that!!! It’s like DO YOU NOT HEAR IT BEING ON REPEAT 20 TIMES??? XD
@jesusredeemedme2425
Lol, right?
As for the second one, see, I'm there to gently provide the reassurance. 😁 Not trying to bring someone down or start fights, which are the kinds of responses that I've gotten a lot. But I do get it, because I feel the same on some levels. Despite getting into pretty good shape, I'm still technically overweight, my hair doesn't behave, my face is too round. So, I did kinda have to learn to not act similarly if someone compliments my looks.
@Torean
I wish more people were understanding like that. A lot of people think I’m “too much”. I wish people understood trauma and low self-esteem and mental illness so they can be empathetic and welcome you no matter how “much” you are.
Start fights?
No self-judgement allowed. Hehe! You’re awesome just the way you are <3
@jesusredeemedme2425
Much agreed on the first part, and thank you, same to you! 🥰. By fights I mean more them getting upset and then I don't know what to say
@Torean
Thank you!
Some people just crave drama. lol
@Torean
I wish more people were understanding like that. A lot of people think I’m “too much”. I wish people understood trauma and low self-esteem and mental illness so they can be empathetic and welcome you no matter how “much” you are.
Start fights?
No self-judgement allowed. Hehe! You’re awesome just the way you are <3
@Torean they are good red flags, but I need to ask you.... Does my butt look big in this wheelchair??
@Tinywhisper11
Bwaha, only in the best way. 😉 Humor like that is a definite green flag. 😁
@Torean yaaaay! I passed the test 😁
@jesusredeemedme2425 I don't date but my red flags would be, if anyone starts pushing me around and talking behind my back ♿♿♿😂😂😂😂
Also if your not a cowboy then bye bye
Money is a huge red flag, you gotta be able to buy me a Crystal palace to live in😎
If you wear a bigger bra than me, well that's a giant red flag
@Tinywhisper11
You made me imagine a silent cowboy with a fat wallet pushing you around. 😂 He was wearing a bra over his shirt but only a small one.
@Torean sounds like my kinda guy😍😂😂😂😂😂
@Tinywhisper11
Like Elsa's????
@jesusredeemedme2425 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@jesusredeemedme2425 when he threatens to kick you out of the house
@modestTown9870
Ouch. Abuser. Leave him immediately!!! That's a MAJOR red flag 🚩
People who think it's weird that I watch kids' movies. Nearly exclusively. :P
Anyone who says they hate drama……they’re always the root cause of it.
@jesusredeemedme2425
They take you on a first date to see "The Nightmare Before Christmas".
They write you a poem in a language you don't know, then you get embarrassed when you find someone to translate it for you.
After talking for 5 minutes, he buys you a diamond tennis bracelet.
He tries to hit on you and then introduces you to his wife.
@NotAllHere713
Who are these people???? How do I avoid them??? lol
@jesusredeemedme2425 someone who only talks about themselves and rarely asks about you, is always wanting to talk about sexual things, picky eater
@amusingWest5360
What's wrong with a picky eater??? XD
@jesusredeemedme2425 it's harder to make them dinner or go to new places cause they only want to stick with the same food
@amusingWest5360
True.
