Do Good Men Exist?
Please tell me your stories… Your green flags, your experiences, the safe men in your life… Please give me hope…
Yes they do exist, and as one I'm often hiding behind a lot of other things due to fear of being hurt or possibly frowned on by male peers.
I have a fair few friends not just locally but internationally who fit this also.
Vice versa is also my question as it goes both ways
Key words i heard in your post...
Hiding, fear, hurt, being judged.
My brother, everyone of those things are difficult things men go through in life, but we don't let them honey out ability to live our life to the best we can.
Those things will all happen, at some point. Sometimes all at once,
Your strength and manhood doesn't exist because someone has deemed you worthy in society by saying nice things. It exists because you take it, earn it, use it to make this world a better place. Sometimes, you use it to protect yourself as well. I'll admit.
Hiding keeps you surrounded by darkness. Youll never be seen in the darkness. Stop worrying about getting hurt, put yourself other and do things that over shadow that worry. Acts of kindness, Words of affirmation, etc to strangers, most of all focus on always making a better version of yourself. Before you know it, you may have just ran into the "one" by doing these things for strangers.
I wish you all best brother.
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@jesusredeemedme2425 I haven't found a green flag yet
Yes they do
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I had met wrong guys before. Men who just cheated on me. But I can say there are of course still good men out there. The guy I am seeing well he's not perfect. We argue from time to time. But we are okey with each other not checking in always. I mean, I don't expect him to text or call me every day and so he is to me. I still want to keep a quiet time for myself.
I guess it's just that we tried our best fo fix the differences between us. We are just meeting half way as much as we could.
Though I can say he is not a good provider if marriage would come in the story. But I am happy with this set up. No strings attached.
While I still haven’t found my husband. I know if and when, all things are possible through him. I won’t include his name due to guidelines, but you know who I’m talking about 😊. For a while, it seemed like deceived man after another, until the last man was the worst. However, the lord has provided me the discernment to, walk away and not get involved with each of these “potential” suitors. Again not everyone, who “says” the right things is the right man. I’ve encountered men; asking me if I believed in a creator; the thing is which “one”. That has become the one, nonnegotiable for me. Having come to know him truly has made all these peculiar and off putting experiences worth it. 😊
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Yes good people - men, women, boys, girls - definitely exist. There’s people here that are solid proof of that. For some examples: You, TinyWhisper, Amanda, me. Mentioning myself bc I’m a guy to show you good guys exist. Tiny and Amanda are women but they’re great so that explains that. I’m not sure if you’re a guy or woman though but you’re definitely a great person so definitely worth a mention.
I sincerely hope this gives you the hope you seek and deserve. Sending you love, support and hope along with hugs my friend ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I’m a girl hehe. And thank you! <3
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Ah ok thanks for telling me that. Now I know. And you are most welcome ❤️
I’m surprised you didn’t know earlier lol
I can attest that good men most certainly are out there! Im young still and so is my boyfriend but he is absolutely the most wonderful human amd treats me with so much grace and love. The kind of guy that opens the car door and gives you his jacket and suprises you with coffee and random gifts and gets a job just to be able to do that. The kind of guy that stays up late even though he's a morning person, leaves his notifications on overnight so you have somone to reach out too, drives 25 minutes to bring you chocolate when you on your period. The kind of guy to stand up for you even though he hates confrontation, write down what you like and dont on his phone because hes forgetful but isnt going to let that stop him, wont let you carry your own things, loves you openly but isnt controlling. The kind of guy to make you realize your incredibly lucky, and loved
Im his first gf, his dad doesn't do that stuff, idk where he learned. What I do know is that amazing men exsist, they might be hard to find, but theyre out there and theyre worth the wait.
My husband is a really good man. Kind, patient, reliable, thoughtful, hardworking. He’s lovely. We’ve been married more than a decade and together for 2 decades. They’re out there. Sending love and care to you.
As someone who considers themself the opposite of a good man ( I have made a lot of mistakes, selfish choices, at the expense of those closest to me) I am trying to be better. And there are many men out there better than me who continue to inspire me to change for the best. And at the very least, if someone like me can see the error of their ways and try to improve, then I'm sure that there is hope for everyone