Do Good Men Exist?

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@jesusredeemedme2425 

They do exist. We just need to have our hearts open for them. 

A friend, a neighbor, a colleague. 

Start by noticing a man who does right by you. 

That could be as simple as an open heart on here. 💙

@jesusredeemedme2425

I know wonderful men exist because my father is wonderful, supportive , kind, safe, protective, never violent, never cruel, he respects all women, I know because I have two wonderful brothers who are respectful to their partners, they see them as equals, they are not threatened by strong women, they don't make women feel inferior. They were good brothers, and good father's and they are raising their sons to be the same. I know because I am good friends with many male members and listeners here at cups, who never objectify, never treat me as less just because I'm.a woman, they are respectful, they are considerate and they are a pleasure to converse with.

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@jesusredeemedme2425

Do good men's exist :

If u ask me, my ans is yes.

I’ve been treated badly by men. Some wounds don’t close easily. Some memories settle deep, like scars under the skin. And sometimes it feels like I’ll carry that pain forever.

But life didn’t leave me with only darkness.

God sent me two men who changed my understanding completely (my father and my brother) Especially my father.

I have never seen him disrespect a woman. Not once.

My mother has a harsh way of speaking. She raises her voice. She uses words that cut. Since childhood, I’ve watched her speak to my father in ways that would shake anyone’s patience. And many times, I felt anger rising inside me on his behalf.

But he never raised his voice back.

He never lost control.

He never tried to overpower her.

He chose patience. He chose restraint. He chose dignity.

And at the same time, I’ve seen other men... the shouting, the violence, the emotional abuse, the damage they leave behind. I’ve felt some of it myself. I’ve seen how some men hurt the women in their lives without hesitation.

That contrast shaped me.

Because of the men who hurt me, I carry trauma.

But because of my father and brother, I carry belief.

If they weren’t in my life, I might have believed that all men are the same. I might have closed my heart completely. I might have chosen bitterness.

But I can’t deny what I’ve witnessed with my own eyes.

Good men exist.

I live with proof of that every day.

And that truth matters.

Hope things will soon ease up for u 💜. Hugs u closer to my heart ❤️

@jesusredeemedme2425

I didn't meet but I believe yes they are there. 

The most important for me in men is to be religious loved by Allah . Then to be responsible. Family man love kids and financially stable with successful career. 

@jesusredeemedme2425 

Well, my dad.

He makes mistakes. Ive been mad at him before– ill be mad at him again. But he is the most patient, kind man I have ever known. The biggest thing is, he tries. When we fill the house with decor, which goes against his belief that simple is best, he smiles at our excitement. When mom and I fight (often), he mediates. He doesnt pick her over me, or me over her. When our financial situation was hard, he faced it with a "lets see how this adventure ends up" kind of attitude. And when he got COVID, he was reassuring us. 

My mom got lucky– beyond lucky. I know that love exists because of him. 

Do good men exist? I think they'd have to, for humans to last this long. I hope you find em, too. 

@jesusredeemedme2425

Good men do exist. I'm happy I can yap a little about an amazing friend of mine.

Met an amazing guy working during university days. In a new country, going through a lot and meeting someone who just gets me. Same humour, similar traumas (yeah trauma bonded real hard).

I only worked for a few months and then had to quit to focus on exams and never returned due to mental health. In the following months after I quit I fell into a depressive slump, couldn't clean my room, or make food, or just any basic things.

He couldn't reach me so he just came over. No judgement, no jokes. Made me food and while I ate just cleaned up, got me out of the house. Slowly with his help I got better. He never expected anything in return, never crossed a line.

Yeah i think they exist :)

There are evil women too though that I fear....

@jesusredeemedme2425

if im being honest, im just the same as you. i havent met good men in life, not even my father made me feel safe. 

but reading everyone's opinions, i thought that.. maybe yeah.. good men DO exist. reading every text, gave me hope to look forward to, as well.

i hope you feel the same way

I honestly don’t know but I have hope. The only boyfriend I ever had was emotionally abusive.