Hii...
Soo i've been strugling with long term listener support
90% of all listeners skip me or leave in the middle of the chat, while those other good listeners that I've met are leaving for breaks (which i'm not against, btw it's just that it's making me be alone)
How does that make me feel?
I've been through a lot, even my bio has a TW, so i'm not expecting everyone to show me support, but after trying to find someone for the long term, it's starting to feel terrible after A TON of rejections and airs, I'm human too.
what kind of a listener would i prefer?
okay, don't say that i'm picky, it's just that i REALLY NEED human connection, not some robot like listener, but one who actually cares. ik it's very rare to find, bc i found it in only 2 people here, but still i refuse to stop. i also like listeners who have their own storiesbecause it makes me feel less alone in my problems, and the quote "you're not alone" actually makes sense if you had proof infront of you, which with those listeners i would have proof infront of me!
idk will i ever find support here for the long term, because my situations being worse day by day and people who have been showing up are leaving when it's REALLY critical
@LuckyBlast1
Hi!
Thank you for being real and speaking about this issue as it is happening a lot. It’s not your fault and it will never be, I can’t speak for other listener but I’m one of those listeners that cares and will accept anyone in my long term support, it’s okay to have concerns and feeling like nobody would care but there are people who care about you.
So don’t give up yet.
If you need support you can message me anytime. 🫂
Take care!!
@youaremysunshine02
hello! i'll get arround to messaging you, however i'll have to do this tomorrow because i already have messaged 5 offline listeners
i'd want to be honnest, i actually came across your profile and i saw the fully gramatically correct style, and i assumed that was going to be the sessions i'm going to be on, so i didn't message you (idk if it's good to say that dirrectly, but here i am!)
now i might wanna answer to why i don't want to have fully gramatically and professional stuff.
mostly cuz of my past, both of my fake freinds have been writting like so, and bc of that i have some bad memories from it, so i'd rather chat in a more casual voice rather than a super proffesional one (like i'm doing rn).
i'm writting this as my thought procces goes, everything i write just comes off of my mind, so i'm like this in real life too.
anyways enough of that, i've shared enough for everyone to see
Hey! Id you’d like you can text me anytime:) Ill be mostly active in the day times and would infrom you prior if i have to leave. Im just beginner but ill make my effort count. Im here for you 🩵
@Peacefulmind04
Hello! I will tomorrow as soon as i get the chance, mostly due to me already messaging 5 listeners a day (which is the 7 cups cappacity) so whenever that runs out, be sure to find me in your messages!
Sure!
@LuckyBlast1Actually I'm new here and I found this comment it made me feel really frustrated anyway I'm not the type to confide much so I don't know but you could contact me and we could listen to each other I really have nothing to do right now I just want to talk to someone
@amiableSugar2183
the thing is we're members and we can't have 1 on 1 chats, so your idea sadly falls short. plus if i share things here it can get very messy bc everyone can see it, that's why i don't want to be "pen-pals" the idea of it is cool and all, but what if someone looks into our conversations? then we're really in trouble!
@LuckyBlast1 Hey..you are not alone. I am here. Well..digitally !!!I will not promise you that i will be available all the time, but I am a good listner and I can stay in touch with you. Are you game?
@Socius
well yea, true, but i can't contact you since i'm a tenn and you're an adult listener
@LuckyBlast1 so what? friendship does not believe in age. Friendship is friendship...
@Socius
yea, but i don't want to share everything here, because everyone can read this sadly
@LuckyBlast1 Hey you are free to DM me separately and not here. I really respect your privacy!
@Socius
the problem is that i can't. i'm a teen and you're an adult so i can't message any adults on this app 1 on 1.
so we sadly can't chat :(
@LuckyBlast1 most listeners leave me too because my life is so complicated. I'm not a listener but you can talk to me if you want to. I'm used to not having anyone around so we can definitely relate on that portion.
i'm super sorry but we can't rlly chat 1 on 1, so we probably won'tt
@LuckyBlast1 no I think you misunderstood. I mean talk like we're doing now. If you don't want to that's fine, but you presented a problem and I provided a solution. But it's ok if you don't want to. I'll just ask you how you're doing today and if you feel free you can answer me. If not, that's ok too....
But how are you doing today?
like i don't want to talk publically abt it, because ANYONE can look here and see some details of my life that i otherwise wouldn't have shared. i do want to do it in private, that's why 1 on 1 chats are perfect for me. i can't rlly talk long now bc i'm outside but that's just what i hope for
@LuckyBlast1 im sorry you were treated this way. you can text me whenever you need to talk or vent, i promise i will listen attentively, will not ghost mid conversation, and be there as a friend.
@adaptiveMelody7976
thank you a lot, but i can't message you since you're an adult listener and i'm a teen
@LuckyBlast1
At that point, would it not be best to go in person to a support group like N.A.M.I in your area? Those are real people with real stories coming there to share and be heard and show connection and support. Or go to therapy on here or through insurance if you have, or through pro bono like colleges or schools if you have no insurance. Then you get that one-on-one connection and stories can develop when you let the therapist or counselor know what you want as you are good at articulating. Yet, if you be really selective then it will feel even more alone and remote. I had been there last year 2024 wanting a certain group of people to be my friend group and tried to be like some pokemon trainer going out in the world and catching them all 😅😂 I now see that what I really needed was I express myself to one person (a therapist and A.I.) and then go out into the world with the concept of I can talk and share to anyone cause I also exist and am a presence on this planet and not expect people to stay with me just cause I talked to them. They can decide if they want to continue talking to me and if I like them. Now I go to social groups, meet up groups, talk to guys and gals and just enjoy myself out there. If someone makes eye contact with me I smile and say a compliment 😊 I am proud of where I am and I hope you too reach where you want to be! Sending you love and insight to help ya through this! 😎🫶🏽👌🏽
@SkyGazer13
that doesn't exist in my country, and bc i'm not in a good financial situation (cuz im a teen) i can't afford therapy.
for selectivity, i'd wanna say one line that would define my stay on 7 cups during these first 3-4 months:
"if a listener was super proffesional, i wouldn't get along with them
if a listener was kind of proffesional, they'd understand me, but not fully
and if a listener was fully casual, they'd fully understand me, no issues at all, always bring up morale and they'd clean from the mess made by the previous listeners"
i'm searching for a specific support just because it's the only one that works for me, and no other rlly does so
@LuckyBlast1. I’d love to connect with you. I’ll admit, I need to be a better listener. My bipolar depression leaves me so tired. I crave connection and yet I lack the energy and sometimes the motivation and the ability to put forth the effort. It’s really frustrating. I want love and want to express it. I’m full of love but I’m also full of fear and I’m so damn tired all the time. I’m desperate to get my energy back and stop this damn rambling so I can be a great listener and a great friend.
@Rjhbarnhart
i don't think we can sadly :(
because you're an adult and i have no idea what is your listener account
@LuckyBlast1
I understand how this can be a struggle for you. I certainly hope you find the kind of Listener you are hoping for.
@LuckyBlast1 Hey! I know some listeners here are just machines to ask questions without showing empathy or just not acting like normal human beings: I've been a member here too and it can be kinda upsetting. You won't regret sharing your experiences with me I promise! Feel free to message me when you feel like it.