Hii...
Soo i've been strugling with long term listener support
90% of all listeners skip me or leave in the middle of the chat, while those other good listeners that I've met are leaving for breaks (which i'm not against, btw it's just that it's making me be alone)
How does that make me feel?
I've been through a lot, even my bio has a TW, so i'm not expecting everyone to show me support, but after trying to find someone for the long term, it's starting to feel terrible after A TON of rejections and airs, I'm human too.
what kind of a listener would i prefer?
okay, don't say that i'm picky, it's just that i REALLY NEED human connection, not some robot like listener, but one who actually cares. ik it's very rare to find, bc i found it in only 2 people here, but still i refuse to stop. i also like listeners who have their own storiesbecause it makes me feel less alone in my problems, and the quote "you're not alone" actually makes sense if you had proof infront of you, which with those listeners i would have proof infront of me!
idk will i ever find support here for the long term, because my situations being worse day by day and people who have been showing up are leaving when it's REALLY critical
@LuckyBlast1 sending lots of love to you!✨🤍
I feel the same... I wish you find the support you're looking for ❤️❤️and be gentle to urself 💕
You're amazing! and deserving of love and comfort ❤️
@fossilfellow
thank you! i was just asleep so i couldn't really respond. i honnestly expected no response from thid lolll
You're loved <3 ❤️
Literally all I want is to try to heal and I’m trying but they always skip me or stop responding.
I understand how you feel %100. I just wanted someone that relates to how I’m feeling or try to understand me.
@usersosad0
isn't it crazy how common is it? like our listeners should do a better job!!
Understand your feelings! There is nothing like the feeling of abandonment. I to have those feelings and mine also moves towards unwanted feelings. I’m sorry you have to endoure these feelings.
@mustangnite
yeaa i'm still doing my best, but it's crazy how common we all feel. i thought it wouldn't be super common, but i guess people do actually get aired by a lot of listeners.
I think this is a better call to the websites listeners to ACTUALLY DO THEIR JOB NOW
@LuckyBlast1
Hi back…
I can’t speak for other listeners, and I’ve not been doing much listening lately, but instead are answering these “needs reply” postings instead. I’ve chosen to do this because I’ve so little time to spend online, and if I do have to cut a chat session short or simply not respond soon enough, I worry that the person I’m talking to may feel as you do, that I don’t really care about them.
Something to consider is that some listeners are new, and aren’t really good at staying with an intense conversation, and are susceptible to becoming emotionally overwhelmed, so they may cut the meeting short or disconnect without warning. It’s also true that listeners often need breaks after 20-30 minutes, simply to maintain mental alertness and sensitivity.
I’m concerned about your mention of listeners leaving when it’s “REALLY” critical. I sure wouldn’t want to leave someone when it feels critical that I remain with them. Still, things happen, such as legitimate hardware issues, or the listener needing to attend to a personal or family need. For this reason, 7cups listeners aren’t fully equipped to function in an emotional or mental crisis situation. There are however, crisis resources available here: https://www.7cups.com/crisis/
I did read your bio, and believe you’ve been through a lot in your life already. I have a bit of dyslexia, so I encountered difficulty while trying to read it word for word, but I think I’ve understood a significant part of it. It seems that you’ve been hurt by several “friends,” encountered a lot of conflict in ***, not always treated fairly in school. You’ve encountered the very common “mind games” and manipulation that occurs between many teens, but I suspect you’d much prefer to avoid that kind of thing. You’re very intelligent and academically, you’re a high achiever.
You are right, being “depressed” is not an excuse for mistreating or manipulating others.
I think one thing you’re facing is that you’re growing and maturing, but many of the teens around you are far less mature. I’ve learned from my experience that the quieter and less popular kids are more likely to be advanced in maturity. The quiet kids observe the social struggling of the popular kids, and tend to form a more appropriate value system and think about what will be best for them in the future. Based on my observation, the popular kids are more likely to be vain and materialistic, and their friendships based on who can help them gain even more popularity. I think the introverted and less popular kids are more likely to turn out like Bill Gates, or end up being the boss of those kids who were too preoccupied with being popular to achieve much academically.
Although I may not be in a position to be a listener for you, I’m willing to exchange messages with you.
All the best, Spiritriver
@Spirittriver
thanks! ik it's a little hard to read, i might even need to update it lolll
i still have more things that have went down outside of the bio! anyways i'm short on time here, so i want to exchange messages now, but i can't. i 'll do so laterr
plus it's not as crutical as suicide dwww
I just want to toss in there as well, no Offense to OP but we gotta keep in mind they are still a kid, kids tend to find things critical that may not seem critical to an adult, such as the friend problems and what not 🤷♂️
You will find support that meets yours needs ❤️🥰😍
thank youuu
@LuckyBlast1.
@Marleyb
ik ik ik, but it gets difficult after 5 times of it happening, plus cups is sometimes preventing me from reaching out to more listeners to prevent spam, soo it goes super slowly after every single timee. it actually is harder bc when you've already met most listeners here, it gets very hard. especially when most are busy with their long term members
You are absolutely right.
Hey there I would not mind at all taking you on! Message me
@HealingDominicana03
the problem with that is that i'm a teen who becomes an adult in 3 years so i can't message you here!
i can do that if you become an ATL (Adult-Teen listener), that's the only way you can take me in sadly
Ahhh I see wow I didn’t know that actually. My apologies….
if you know anyone who can help me and is available, would you mind by sending them to me?
Well of course actually let me see how I can change my settings
Hey I am here if you need to talk
Dont hesitate to text me
thanks for it, but you're listening to 18+, buttt i'm 15 and it'll take me 3 years so that i even can message you.
you could also become an ATL (Adult-Teen listener) if you'd want, but eighter wait 3 years or do thatt (not rlly worth it is it?)
Sorry didnt know that...
it's alright!
