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Hoping this isn't going to be a pattern.

User Profile: srs1992
srs1992 July 6th, 2025

My SO and I live in an RV at his parents place which was a completely trashed house they're fixing up to sell. Yesterday was the first night they stayed in it.

My SO wanted to make bean burgers for dinner, I said cool you can grill them and I'll just make some cookies. His mom texted and asked if we wanted to have dinner with them later in the day. We said sure, neither of us had to cook then and we dont have a lot of money for food so free meal! After she got back I was outside smoking and when I went back inside my SO said his mom asked if we could cook the food. I said ok... yeah.

I didnt think and I dont think she really did either that they dont have a kitchen in the house yet so had to use our grill and would have had to any ways because of how much chicken there was and our stove in the RV needs to be fixed.

Anyways I dont like when things change or suddenly do so was a bit irritated that I went from barely cooking, to not cooking to now cooking all the food and barely having ways to cook everything simultaneously.

Its pretty hot out too, and im not a fan of outdoor cooking.

After we ate she asked what we wanted for dinner tomorrow, so for today. We're having salmon last I knew of last night and im going to cook yet again. Didn't really agree but didnt say I wouldn't because my SO got a little upset when I seemed annoyed and said I should be grateful.

Also dont want to be rude, theyre buying food and have no way to cook it. Which really the only issue was the sudden now im cooking and cooking for double the people im use to, have to cook outside in the heat and eat in it. Have to cook it when they want to eat not me. My SO did say he has trouble with eating a lot of meat and doesn't eat it everyday because of that, so we're having salmon...

But I cant eat when im hot, or get stressed out, and if im not hungry. Haven't felt the greatest the past few days and woke up with an awful headache and puked. The day before was sick with acid reflux and just felt bad.

I hate that cooking a meal has made my whole day kind of stressful and havent wanted to say much to my SO incase I randomly say something avout it. Just dont want to deal with that...

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User Profile: fossilfellow
fossilfellow July 7th, 2025

@srs1992 I'm sorry you're feeling this way, I really think you should let them know how you're feeling... It's not fair for you to be doing all the meals... especially when you feel sick. If this feels like a pattern, it's worth letting them know how you feel or maybe try to spend a bit less energy/time during the cooking part, by avoiding heat and sunlight, or asking them to help when you feel overwhelmed... Try not to be too hard on yourself 🤍 I wish you find the support you're looking for here 🍀Sending lots of love towards you! ❤️❤️