How do you stay positive without letting anything break your focus?

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9

 it’s not a linear process

 give yourself some grace and be kind to yourself first and foremost

 often times if little things are bothering me, there’s something BIGGER that is bothersome

 I’ve also learned, if I’m drained, it’s ok to rest. sometimes that’s what our bodies and minds are looking for. 

Journaling, meditation, something you ENJOY, fun, talking it out and has hard as it can be-exercise. Get your body moving.❤️❤️ 

Most of all, be your own cheerleader with a team here to support you 

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9

It's not an easy process but a consistent one, doing things everyday that just lifts our spirits.

Laughter.

Good thoughts 

Hobbies.

Sharing how you truly feel with people.

I know you are trying that's what counts 💜💖

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9

 Kudos to you for courageously taking on the rather daunting task of changing thought patterns.

I think there are quite literally millions of books on the subject of positivity and "brain training." So, it becomes a question of where to start addressing the topic.

There are several "feedback loops" involved, such as fatigue that triggers negativity, and negativity that triggers fatigue. If facing a very unappealing task, the mind may tell the body that it's too tired to face the job, then along comes the negativity that would convince you that having to do the job isn't really fair. Low blood sugar, problems with sleep, and something that everyone deals with these days, inordinate stress, along with countless other factors, can trigger negativity.

It may be an issue of too much work, and too little relaxation or recreation.

It might be a self-esteem or confidence issue.

I like what peach Thinker 662 mentioned, that sometimes being bothered by trivial issues, may be an indication that there is something of greater significance seeking mental audience.

Maybe a continuous effort to remain positive can, at least in the short term result in negative feelings.

A therapist once told me, "you must not, under any circumstances, think about monkeys today." Despite my best efforts, thoughts about monkeys persisted for the rest of the day.

If, in the morning, I tell myself not to have negative thoughts, it may have the same effect as "don't think about monkeys."

I think the subconscious is very much a concrete thinker. If I tell myself I'm going to "try" to do something, the subconscious is likely to interpret the word "try" as an indication that success is far from assured. It's a person has a habit of talking about "trying" to do things, they may be programming the subconscious to make its best effort focused on making sure the goal isn't reached.

That's why in the movie "Star Wars," Yoda said, "there is no try, only do or not do." It reminds me of when people call themselves "seekers," I think to myself, I'd rather be a discoverer.

Something to be aware of, is that even when experiencing negative thoughts, it does not mean that you are a negative person. I think there's something to be said for observing thoughts, as though they are passing clouds, and we are free to choose how we regard them or react to them. In short, you are not your thoughts. At depth, you are the light and love that is motivated to counsel your thoughts.

Finally, I seem to have evolved a sense of humor about when I find myself getting irritable. For me, it's a bit like "zooming out" to take in a larger perspective of my situation.

Much of what we witness and experience in life gives plenty of scope for reacting with negative thoughts. I think it's important to acknowledge their presence, and to give thought to how our reaction may help or hinder our ability to function in a way that maintains our well-being. In that sense, acknowledging negative thoughts is a positive thing.

In my opinion, fearing or fighting negative habits and thought patterns, confers upon them undeserved strength. Rather than fear or fight, a better option is to "turn away" from them. It also helps to have alternative things to focus on. For example, when I quit smoking in the 1980s, I took up cross-country skiing. When it comes to thought patterns we'd like to shift, maybe an alternative focus can help, as can some of the other things mentioned above, such as meditation or relaxation.

I hope you have a wonderful day today!

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 I feel like your focus is bound to get broken eventually but its about having the motivation to push forward

@Ailuraphilelove8tear9 i stay focus and concentrate on what I'm doing i never allow distractions 

Hello @Ailuraphilelove8tear9 (and everyone)!

I have been away from 7Cups dealing with a medical condition, but I’m so grateful to be back online, especially meeting people such as yourself who are interested in having more balance and peace in their lives!

1. A caring and generous community like this helps me to stay positive. 

2. Continuing asking for help (as you are doing now) also helps me to keep my focus. I have also asked for very specific support. For example, one time I noticed I was procrastinating on filling out some government forms, so I asked a friend on 7Cups if I could track and report the progress I was making on these multi-part forms. This really helped keep my motivation up.

3. Try to develop a perspective of life that includes openmindedness, plenty of second chances, and non-linear pathways for achievement.

Thank you for asking the question! I hope this helps … tell us how it is going! 🙂

Just give importance to you and always give love and care which you never received!