I just need someone/people to talk to
Going through a break-up. And all these thoughts, flashbacks, what ifs, overthinking the future, wanting life to just end right now. I’m crashing and it’s too quiet. I barely have anyone to talk to.
@frankSpring3872
It doesn't sound like you are in a great place right now. I hope time will be gentler with you. We got great folks to talk to here..🌲
I’m in the worst situation of my life right now. I also feel like I’m bothering the people around me because I keep on messaging them.
@frankSpring3872 you are not alone, and you are stronger than you think
thank you
I can be your listening ear. You don't have to carry the weight alone
I am in a similar situation. Sending positive thoughts your way.
The thing about breakups is that it is so easy to think it was you, if you had just done something differently the breakup wouldn't have happened. But sometimes it really is them, in subtle ways that it takes time to truly understand.
Talking with other people has been a lifeline for me. It is easy to feel very alone especially in quiet moments and then those dark thoughts slip in. That's how I found 7 cups.
Exactly what I’m feeling. Repetitive thoughts, the what ifs. I also constantly need someone to talk to or I’ll lose my mind with my overthinking.
How was it for you? How are you doing now?
@frankSpring3872
It's a roller coaster. One minute I am this calm rational person the next I am crying. Sleep definitely helps, anything (well anything healthy) you can do to get a good night's sleep will help. I also have to make sure I eat. Sleep deprivation low calories and this emotional roller coaster makes me ill.
Talking with real people also helps. I just found seven cups and it is really helpful. It gives me something else to think about even if it's just what to say in a comment.
I always thought this was a cliche but suddenly I find "today is the first day of the rest of my life" is helpful. It prompts me to look for something enjoyable to do rather than stew on this awful situation.
I can still do some tasks, hygiene but eating and sleeping is something i’m struggling with. If I eat I know I’ll vomit it, so I just do small bites. I do get sleepy but I get scared that I’ll dream about that person thinking its reality then wake-up feeling like i’m dying.
Do you have any groups? you joined here? a listener?
@frankSpring3872
I just joined. You are the second person I have chatted with. I have tried a few listeners but the chats are going better for me .
I am not dreaming at all. What's really bad is when I get very little sleep (like one hour). The next day is awful. Physically ill and very difficult to control my emotions.
How long were you together with this person? Do you have many of these dreams?
How long have you been suffering like this? I'm entering the third month.
We were together for 4years. I really thought it was endgame, something forever. Since there have been talks about it. And then suddenly boom! I don’t want this anymore, I want my freedom.
This is still really fresh, its only been 4days.
@frankSpring3872
That hurts. You were expecting a future with this person, and they blindsided you. On top of all the other hurt, you just had your dreams and plans for the future pulled out from under you. Blindsided - no serious talks about their unhappiness or other issues, just came home and they said it was over? No fights or arguments leading up to this? That would be very disorienting.
We previously had an argument around end of april. we worked it out, gave it a chance. That we would both change the negative aspects. I thought we were okay, still making plans, but turns out I was the only one making an effort to make it work. And he just blindsided with me the break-up. We were even talking and joking the day before the break-up. His words during the break-up were “I came here because I really don’t want this anymore. I want my freedom. It’s not you but I’m just tired.” The tone was really stone-cold. Like I’m some trash he just wants to get rid of.
@frankSpring3872
Oh yes the coldness. Suddenly the person you knew better than anyone in the world is this cold stranger looking at you like you are a bug. My husband of 30 years just did this to me. Never said anything. Had an affair, said he would try therapy which on his end meant venting all of his grievances about me down to the trivial (sometimes she asks the same question two or three times!) that led him to conclude he wanted out. Two months of this.
It's not you. "I want my freedom" means I don't know how to deal with conflict and difficult feelings, so I run away.
Thats tough, 30 years together. You are soooo brave. I hope to have the courage and strength that you have.
Thats tough, 30 years together. You are soooo brave. I hope to have the courage and strength that you have.
@frankSpring3872
One day at a time, one moment at a time, lots of reading, building a support network, learning who my real friends are. Lots of time reading about betrayal trauma and talking with AI. Also found a wonderful therapist but that's only one hour a week.
@frankSpring3872
You can do this. Courage and strength are not words that describe me but just take it one moment at a time and it will get better. Remember that you have the right to feel hurt, sad, anger, grief...just naming what you are feeling is helpful.
I’m quite appalled how some people think that running away is the solution to every problem. And next thing, they are already in a new relationship.
They never thought that they were hurting another person too, it was all for their own selfishness.
@frsnkSpring3872
Sorry to hear that you're in difficulties and repetitive thoughts i know it feels like thousands of thought echoing in mind . I pray to the Almighty God to bless you , don't worry don't think too much friend, problems that beyond our control then don't think much believe on God friend, sending blessings from the beautiful universe.
Thank you. And I really hope so.
Most of us are familiar with such emotions and the situations because we human follows the same pattern of life, we get born, we fall in love them we break up and so on, but at the only thing that matters a lot and differentiate us is recognizing you as a strongest creature and making you realize that life is meant to live and enjoy, the way you want. The life of full of possibilities so don't be sad if someone has closed one door for you, there must be hundreds of others, But you need to prepare first and you are not alone in that...
It just really hurts right now.
Then you need to talk to someone.. someone who is familiar with the patterns and will get your out of this just by simple words ..yes words matters a lot when you are going through a lot, its just the game ...of brain .... You need to be calm down, set your priorities and start doing what you love the most
@ChillCharm love this take
@frankSpring3872 please feel free to dm me
@frankSpring3872 Hey friend! Thanks for reaching out. I am Serene and I am here to talk to you. :) I know breakup is very very hard, like something left and it's attachments too. But it's always going to be happy a little while afterwards, take a small moment to breathe in and out, I'm always here to talk.
Thank you. Talking to people really helps with the voices in my head.
@frankSpring3872 don't let the voices in head get to you, you're a cool person you know
Thanks so much for that. I just hate the quiet moments.
If you ever need someone to talk to i am all ears. I hope you are doing okay.
Thank you and that would be nice to have someone to talk to.
@frankSpring3872 I know break ups are tough and I can't even imagine what is going on in your brain but just know that you are very loved and so many people care for you. One person, no matter how big their impact was in your life is really only just one person. I hope you are okay!
I like that “One person, no matter how big their impact was in your life is really just one person”
THANK YOU
@Spring3872 Of course! I'm here to chat if you need to!
Its the anxiety thats killing me today
