Managing self pressure
Hi, I am new here. But I will like to get some advises.
I always pressure myself about not being good enough at something, no matter what is it. Even if it's my hobbies, my skills, my grades or anything else that can somehow be mesure. I don't know how to deal with it, especially because I pressure myself so much even if I didn't workout a day. I also feel like I am lying to myself when I say that I am doing something but then I feel like I could've done more.
Could someone help me even a bit? I am open towards any suggestions.
It is tricky, because sometimes we call it motivating ourselves and trying to improve ourselves but that can lead to burnout too..
What I started to do, which I still struggle with, was to get into the habit of praising myself after, especially something challenging..
So simply saying, Good job, that was really taxing and I know you weren't enthused and wanted to quit, but you managed it, even surpassed expectations... Feel good about that and you earned a break..
Sounds silly at first but it's a nice boost to the system, a self pat on the back, instead of stretching myself too thin and then quitting everything, fed up.
Thanks, I am trying to do this.
I apreciate your support. And the time you spend on writing that. ð©·
@hardworkingCup8265 Glad to listen and help :)
@hardworkingCup8265
Hello Hardworking, nice to have you with us 😁
ScrabbleBrain has a very good point, that is an effective way to operate. Don't wait to be patted on the back by others, do it yourself.
Do you think your "self-pressure" is actually created by you or do you think it may be because you are trying to please somebody, or everybody else my friend?
Namaste,
D.
I do agree too, but the problem is that I don't do it do it for other people. Is mostly because having a boring life scares me, I hate looking at my phone time and see 6 hours.
Thanks for the comment. Take care of yourself too.
@hardworkingCup8265
hello my friend, I appreciate what you are saying, your feelings are indeed valid and you have every right to feel them. Changing the pattern of thinking is the trick but it can be difficult.
Why do you think you have a boring life? or why does that prospect scare you?
I would suggest that you don't look at your phone too often, it can be a trigger that makes you think negatively. I have worked in factories and warehouses where there were times I was required to do repetitive tasks for long periods. I simply got into "the groove" where I thought about something that brought me pleasure while I let my hands, and a part of my brain, do the work.
The time passes quickly enough then my friend. Give that some thought and see if it might help.
(Listener at 7 Cups of Tea)