Mixed Signals
Hello Everyone, I'm new to this and a little nervous but I want to reach out
I'm Struggling emotionally right now.
It's kinda like everything is hitting at once.
My ex broke up with me in April, moved out in May. (Together before this, 2-3 years all together) Apparently the reason was we were "incompatible" she said. I didn't contact her much she would contact me, then one day she kissed me which eventually turned into a friend's with benefits which she initiated
I do take responsibility cause it takes too
Here's the thing during friends with benefits she would send me mixed signals like wanting to cook me dinner, calling me babe, saying love you on video calls, etc...
Telling me that she loves me, showing me a picture of our 1st date that she had in her nightstand drawer
Basically it only lasted about a month and was told our futures/timeliness aren't on the same path, again to me that's something you'd say if you were breaking up with a bf
Anyway, now she already has a bf after stating I ruined her for guys and she can't fall for anyone, yet she's working on herself supposedly
Also we had a dog, when she broke up with me, she said it was half mine and now apparently now it's hers only
I'm just struggling a lot with everything emotionally and mentally
It's also complicated cause I sold my previous car to her mom which became the car for her 2 youngest kids. Her mom paid me half and still getting paid the rest from the kids (so far they have paid up to date)
Plus still have some of her stuff at my place and some of mine at hers
Problem is right now per her bf apparently I can only contact her regarding the car Payments. Anytime I contact her before I'd get venom and claws.
I'm a good person, good man and don't deserve this. It's like she's trying to avoid all emotional responsibility and put it all on me
Side note I have a broken upper fibula and high ankle sprain, been in a cast since 7th but hopefully will get into a walking boot soon. Right now some friendship would be great with me being limited physically
Just feeling very isolated and lonely. I'm thankful for the help I've received, at same time wish I had more a support system
Thank you letting me vent
Adam
@aekcards Hey Adam. I am so sorry to hear all that you are currently going through. It seems you have a lot on your plate currently, but I would like to remind you of how strong you are. You mentioned that you are a good man and I believe you are. You really do deserve the best and deserve to be with someone who feels the same for you. The relationship ended and for a while, you both opted to do the friends with benefits ordeal. That's no problem if it was something you both decided, but a lot of what you mentioned from her are very intimate things. Sex with friends can't work when there's reminders of a intimate moments and a past love. But you also mentioned now she has a boyfriend. I hope things work out for her with the new relationship. And while she has moved on, I hope that you are able too, as well. I hope that the remainder of they money owed on the vehicle by her family is paid off to you soon, so that is one chapter in your life that can end. I am also hoping that you get your boot soon and that you feel better. I am really glad you found 7 Cups and hope you have found some support here. If you ever do need someone to chat with to listen to you, don't ever hesitate putting a request in the queue. Wishing you happiness and healing in your life. Never forget the kind of man you are and know your worth and that you deserve the best truly. Take care, Adam. <3