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@Dynamite39111

I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling to meet someone, since your breakup.

And I get what you mean re, it's difficult to just approach girls.

And online can be so shallow and seedy.

I would encourage you to find anything in your area where you can meet people in a healthy and natural way, to build up to something more.

You seem like a very nice person 💚 🤗 

@Dynamite39111

I agree with Slappy... but I want ot add my point of view from what I'm going trough right now even as a female I'm craving that intimate connection so badly, even at 35 years old, men sometimes don't realize we have the same strong feelings, but sometimes those feelings are too desperate and strong that are hidding something else, something that has nothing to do with an intimate connection but with a lack of connection with our own self. I like this guy so much that I can't stop thinking about him especially on bad days but when I look at him, I realize he is happy with himself, he doesn't need anyone and if he does find someone is just by chance by doing what he loves and not by force or desperation to fufill something that is empty.   

So I promised myself to work on me being single... being at peace and happy on my own before ever considering to be with anyone else. My past relationship have only been bad because I chose people out of desperation and not out of respect and compatibility. 

Working on your physic and looks is good because that movement can also help you feel a bit better inside but I feel like you should consider doing something that has nothing to do with "wanting to attrack and get the out-side validation of a romantic partner", I think you should do something that can help you be more present and relate to yourself. Go out for dinners or walks but with your ownself. Enjoying your own presence and nothing else. The sooner you learn this the better. 

Try some mindful physical exercises. Try to anchor yourself. 

1.Acceptance 2. Embrace it untill you define it. 3. we are born with emptiness

Hi there 👋🏼, I want to tell you that don't lose hope and have faith in yourself. I know it is something everyone must be telling you as of now. But trust me, just hang in there and there will come a time when the right person comes into your life and everything will fall into place. You need to align yourself with what you really want. If you want a listening ear/virtual friend please feel free to ping me anytime!

Try adopting pets?

@Dynamite39111

Hey Dynamite! It makes me sad that you are feeling lonely and desperate my friend.. I think I understand what you're going through.. I am a deeply emotional person and breakups have affected me a lot in the past. Eventually I figured out what to do And it was simply find distractions because I realized I couldn't get rid of those feelings so I just needed to not focus on them.. and eventually I felt better and that would be my little suggestion to you. 

What I also think is important not to think of getting into a new relationship if you feel you are still affected by the last one.. You need to heal first (and for that, you just need time)… 

And finally and most importantly: You might consider relaxing a little and learning to live with yourself.. in my humble opinion we should all be able to live with ourselves before we can be with someone else, we should enjoy our own company, watch TV shows movies share time with friends and they don't have to be deep friendships, Just nice people with shared interests

In summary don't rush into a new relationship.. Most of the times they arrive by themselves, and learn to love yourself and live with yourself and later when you do meet someone interesting, It will feel like an added bonus 

have a hug and good luck! 😊

@Dynamite39111

I really wish you meet really good people here. 

If you think I could be of any assistance do reach out.

And it's okay, everybody feels lonely once in a while but everything will be okay in some time 🙃

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