Negative judgy sister
I really hate my sister, she's so judgy and negative its hard to say anything to her because she always brings people down and talks about people like they're objects, it's so demeaning and I really hate the negativity with her
Why be so negative and judgy all the time. She really drains the life out of me
It's hard to tell anything I'm happy about. Telling anything I'm going through is a hard no because she just has a field day with that
@MadeInHisImageButOffBrand
It is a downer to be around that. I feel more people are open to the idea if it was a friend who was like that they walk away or cut discussions etc to the bare minimum .... being related should not be any different.
I had a sister like this as we got older i cut contact because she was never going to see how negative and any conversation no matter what was always turned so it was about her. I spent years trying to find a way to be able to even talk to her without coming away from it frustrated.
Exactly!! If it was someone who was not related to me, I wouldn't mind as much I just wouldn't be close to them
But family should be better. But yeah, I remind myself to just have some limits with her and not be too close.
Thanks for your words 💚
@MadeInHisImageButOffBrand
Wow, I completely understand this! My mother is the same way, and so is her mother, and by default, my sister. I genuinely feel like the black sheep in the family, because while I like to enjoy the moment and appreciate the good in any situation, there's always something they can find to complain about, and it dulls my sparkle! I also find this exhausting to navigate, and it often feels like they derive joy from my difficult moments in life...
I combat this dilemma by remaining true to myself. No matter what anyone says to try to bring me down, and even if it might work in the moment, I always try to reflect on why it might have bothered me, and how I can brush it off next time around. One thing I am very grateful for is that people like this serve as a valuable practice. The more time I spend around them, the more I learn how to channel positive thoughts amid darkness.
This is not an easy situation to deal with, however, and can be very draining on a family member. I am here for you if you need anything, or even just a chat!
That's such a positive mindset that you have!!
But for me it's far too draining with her negativity.
Thank you for your words 💚
@MadeInHisImageButOffBrand
It sounds really tough to deal with that kind of negativity from someone so close to you. Wanting to share your happiness but feeling like it gets shut down must feel draining. You deserve to be heard and supported, not judged. If you ever need a safe space to vent or talk things through, you can connect with a listener here on 7 Cups who will listen without judgment.
Abandon her.
She is not worth your time.
Leave the house, leave the room.
She will learn. 💛
