Overly Attached
Hello. This post will be about me on 7cups. I’ve been using this app for over a month now. I used to go on live chats and talk to others but now I just post poems about my emotions whenever I feel horrible. I get really attached to people whenever I open up. And having listeners made me overly attached to them. I don’t ask for their personal information of course, but I just feel like a passer by. I know they have their own lives and will slowly talk lesser and lesser. Even now, the listeners I used to talk to, just stays offline. And it just sucks I guess. It’s always been hard for me to make friends since I am a pessimistic person as well as someone who is emotionally fragile. But yeah, anyways, my mental health is getting worse and that’s that. I don’t know what other choice I have to improve it anymore. Anyways, sorry for the rant.
Hi....I understand how you feel....I feel like somewhere inside im exactly like this too. I hope you feel better soon. And just know that if you ever need to talk or need a long term listener you can reach out to me. I'll be really glad to connect. I'm sorry you are currently going thru bad time. Just know that you aren't alone. Do reach out if you want to talk. *Sending lots of love your way*
@virtualhugsanytime
Thank you.
Hi I feel exactly the same about listeners here. Every time I open up(and that's already very hard) the listeners tell me they will try to support me the best they can and stuff like that but then they are always offline and take ages to reply to messages! I always feel so betrayed! I once shared such a personal thing that still hurt me btw and the listeners just ghosted me. Like what? You were supposed to listen to me! So yeah I got so many bad experiences with listeners , always putting all my hope in them and then they just leaving me and being always offline. So now I just hang out in the support room. It's much better(even tho sometimes people ignore others too) I'm so sorry for your mental health and I hope it will get better. Sending you big hugggs❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@23helicopters
Thank you. 🥰
@23helicopters huggs you ❤
@JanusPi hugggs you ❤ I understand people seem to come and go, even on here. But I find it fun to meet new people in here, make new friends. I'm kinda the opposite on this, I don't like to get to attached, so I'm not sure what to say to comfort you. Sorry sweetie ❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
Thanks!💕 I haven’t had a real friend for more than half my life. So opening up makes me really attached to others. And I also find it hard to make new friends since I have trust issues… Although others are just trying to be nice to me, my mind will wander and think that they have ulterior motives…
Are you me?!😭 cause I am exactly the same. I have trust issues due to trauma and now everytime someone is approaching me I always start to think if they want to use me or not for their own purposes. So my views on friendship is so messed up. And relationships with others in general. It's tough 🤧. I hope it will get better for both of us❤️❤️
@23helicopters aww bless you ❤ you know the first and only place I've got to communicate with people is 7cups. But I have heard people generally only befriend you for their own purposes, and that people use the internet to make things up. So I'm sorry this happens to you. It's very sad 😢 gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤ prays it will get better, and that you find many real friendship s ❤
Thank youuu. You're like a sunshine❤️ your replies make me feel so heard and understood. I'm glad I already have one friend here and it's you❤️ I've really enjoyed our conversations and I'd love to talk more with you. Is there ea way a can message you directly? Maybe on another app or something.
@23helicopters this is the only site I use. I'm not allowed on most social media sites. And I know your on the teen side ❤ so it's just talking this way for now ❤❤ gives you a giant tiny hug ❤❤I love you
Oh OK. that's ok❤️❤️❤️ we can still talk here❤️ I love you too❤️
@23helicopters
Yeah! All the best to us! 💕
@JanusPi aww I understand that😞 you know I've never actually had a friend outside cups. I've had a different kind of life to a lot of people. Now because of fear and trust issues, I don't leave the care home. So yeah I understand and will offer you as much support as I can through the forums ❤❤ hugs you
@Tinywhisper11
Thanks! You probably get this a lot, but just to reassure you. You are really kind and lovely! 💕
@JanusPi awww so are you ❤❤
@Tinywhisper11
Not really but thanks anyways! 💕
Hey buddy.. let's talk..:)
@Letusbefriends
Sure 😊
@JanusPi same here
@JanusPi i have attachment issues as well
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a challenging time. It takes courage to share your feelings and experiences, and it's okay to use 7cups as a platform to express yourself, whether through poems or just sharing your thoughts. It's normal to form attachments to those you open up to, and it can be tough when they become less available. Remember that people have their own lives and responsibilities, and sometimes, they need to take breaks.
In terms of making friends, it can be challenging, especially if you're feeling pessimistic and emotionally fragile. It might be helpful to focus on self-care and seek professional support if your mental health is worsening. There are many resources available to help you navigate this difficult journey. You're not alone, and reaching out to a mental health professional can be a crucial step towards healing. Don't apologize for sharing your thoughts; it's important to express what's on your mind. We're here to listen and support you.
@yellowPineapple239
I am unable to get professional help but either way I’ll stick around here. Thanks!💕
I'm like you too, I thought I was alone feeling this way ...
@JanusPi
hey. i'm sorry it's hard. i kind of feel you. i have never replied to a post before, but this made me feel,,, a little seen? i'm not having the same issue as you are- i'm not overly attached to anyone, i'm barely attached to anything at all- but,,, the result, i think, is similar. the desperation is similar. i have no friends, not really, and i don't think i'll ever get better.
and i'm so sorry.
you don't deserve to feel that way. you deserve to heal, you deserve to be happy. i'm not sure if this will help at all, but i want you to know you're not alone.
the reason i'm never attached is because they always leave. it feels like that might be an issue for you, too. and i'm sorry. it's a terrible feeling. i really hope you find someone who will stay, who will treasure your attachment. i hope you find the strength to cope, and heal, and grow, and get better, and be happy. i hope you don't give. i know it's meaningless coming from a stranger, but you deserve to be here. and you have nothing to apologise for- i'm glad to have read your rant.
thank you for sharing.
@wordypoe
Thank you! This means a lot to me!💕 I don’t think I’ll give up anytime soon. We’ve both already taken the first step to healing by just being on this app. I hope you get through everything you are going through as well. Thanks again!💕
@JanusPi Hi, I don't normally reply to posts because, one I don't know what to say, and my social anxiety likes to kick in. I also get overly attached. To people online, person, and animals.(I foster cats and kittens and have gotten overly attached a lot of times) I got attach to my therapist, only for him to get a promotion after a year so he left, then I got attach to my next one but she got fired/moved after a year, and the third one left the practice. I was on a fourth but it is so draining to get attach only for them to leave. Plus it leaves me feeling as if I did something wrong and that is why they left. I just joined 7cups today so I'm not sure how the listeners work but I know I'll get attach as it is unfortunately my way. I thought I was alone at getting attach and sorry to know you go through this too.
@ShellyZz
Thanks. 💕I’m glad to know I am not alone. I’ve never been to therapy but I am pretty sure it’s not your fault. Don’t worry much about it. All the best to both of us! 💕