People not taking me seriously
I swear guys
i Don’t know if it
s cuz u get like u can be funny n easy going yk but then even if u say something serious they r like as if its wasn’t or make fun of it….
i was thinking in certain communities (eg faith) that it might be cuz I’m younger n usually to listening sessions or such groups I always come out is youngest amongst them or ppl but I don’t think so that’s the problem really
the more ppl see that I can be fun n more positive around them others, boom
i I dunno if they think I’m strong but at same time that I’m not someone who must be taken seriously it
s like paranoi now for me cuz what if majority ppl will fail to take me serious like others??
how to deal with this?
@livbinny
Many who come off and easy going and funny people do not expect serious discussion coming from them. It is their underestimation of you and it is on them.
If you feel strongly about it you should speak up to friends and tell them you have a point of view on whatever serious subject being discussed and even though you like to be light and fun focused does not mean you have thoughts and input in serious discussions.
the most direct way to stand up for yourself if often the most effective IMO
Yeah u might be right then
i I dunno what else it could be if just saying it
but before we discussed serious stuff
but I felt like they took theirs more serious than mine
it felt so humiliating that such ppl I tend to leave before it gets worse….
they don’t get it…
when I asked if they did
they said no
or whenever I got serious they would give that comment like oh serious one or why so serious, etc :(
but thx rly
at leats I know what to do in future now
Btw happened to u?
@livbinny
"friends" used to walk all over me, when I stood up for myself they laugh like i am kidding .... and when i said NO seriously not doing it .....
Because i was easy going and had gone along with being short changed in friendship before ... not making waves. Their issues they always acted as if more important or serious.
I had to take some ppl on and call them out on their stuff.....
no one ever assumed that because in general i am easy going they could keep disregarding me and what i need.
Ohhh
it’s different from mine
cuz I’m overly caring n always making for others way more that I can’t name one nice thing they would make for me without asking them
but I do get your no, seriously doing it
i think u did best
I would have no idea if I didn’t ask ppl here or similar
but sooo accurate is the last, they always act that why it’s crazy…I think it creates general paranoia that whenever I was reaching to somebody else or new I already thought if they would weigh my issues same or less :/
A face to face serious conversation can be pretty hard sometimes so I would suggest using a letter form or something like that to claim your thoughts
some people might think it's still a joke but I assume there will be some people who can take this up seriously (and I think if you have something serious to say you should go find trustworthy people and those that really make you feel comfortable)
i really understand how you feel because it's not easy when we are trying to say something serious but others think take it as a joke
perhaps you're the younger one so they might think you're still a kid which I think you can clarify in the letter
well if you have urgent things to tell feel free to reach out to me, other than that best luck!!
even if those ppl are good like comfortable or trustworthy as friends they still caused me this hurt n issue so I let them go
if I knew this sooner I would probably give it try but I got way too afraid n didn’t want to, hope it’s okay:( im rly sorry but whenever I gave chance, they got bad use of it
tbh im thinking why this is so much n prolly cuz I also like like motivational quotes n I am overly caring almost like mood maker with them cuz that’s what they usually claimed but also the fact that I tend to end things on positive note like what I usually write either rant or venting smth if I know others gonna read it i usually by the end always add the positivity into it so maybe the fact we r these kind of ppl w optimism or generally more energy to life for socializing I think ppl just forget the other aspects cuz we ain’t that serious all the time or maybe dull or shy or like yk?
im trying to make sense of it
What is your age anyway ?
That’s not an issue
whether older or younger
it ends up being same practically :/