Speaking my mind 🥀
Idk if this is even a problem or not...butt i want to speak what I truly feel..I don't know if it even makes sense or not
I struggle with comforting someone likee when someone tells me their problems idk what to say like I can understand what they are saying how they are feeling but I just don't know what to say how to comfort themm or make them feel safe or make them feel like I can understand what they are saying..maybe it's not a big deal butt it affects my relationships or friendships like in any relation there comes a phase where the other person needs some love caree efforts and I just don't know what to give anything it feels like there is no love left in me .. i m empty..too empty to give anything
When someone shows me a little care or just gives me a little attention I feel too good i feel like i matter to themm...it's all just normal... But it's more than bare minimum for meee..it's like I get attached to fast and i can do anything for that person..it's scary..but I always have that fear in mee that they are gonna choose someone else over me I will never be enough for anyone.. i m nottt good enough bcz I can never give someone love caree attention efforts idk how to even explain that...
Also I can't handle close relations ... Like when they aree distant I want to be close but when someone starts getting too close idk what happens with me I can't handle that and ruin everything..tho i really crave for that kind of relation...idk what's know with meee ..but everything is wronggg withhh me.. and I m tired of all this now
Why I m soo baddd..
@cutegrapes
You are not bad.
It is a skill to be there and supportive with others. You know it feels good to be supported and given love. Many attach quickly because of that.
Want to build compassion and ability to be there for others. Start small and build up. I was much like you. I found small things I taught myself a well-placed compliment can brighten most anyone's day.
Even if they were struggling a smile and small nod can convey support. small changes equal big results. Eventually it flows into relationships etc.
I knoww right it feels good...yeahh that's why I wanna be that person who makes some feel better...
.I will tryy to do small things..ohh that's so truee a compliment from someone can really make someone's day
U aree right..thank you so muchh
@toughTiger6481
@cutegrapes I know how this feels, which why I always treat people with kindness but sometimes it's hitting me like a boomerang because not all people are kind. I'm still learning to be better, I hope it will get easy for you too 🤗✨ hugs
That's so nice of u ..thankk youuu🥹🤎 hugsss back 🫂
Make sure you don't sacrifice your own needs for others happiness, you matter as well.
It's lovely that you want to support others. You don't need the right words, sometimes all people want is to be heard.
So if you say something like, where possible, I will make time just for you. I am here for you, that would be such a comfort.
And then afterwards you can say something like, I know you're going through a lot, it will get better eventually, but until that time, my door is always open..
You were brave to open up and share that. I'm so grateful for our friendship/acquaintanceship whatever it is...
It means a lot that you trust me and can feel you can talk to me. I appreciate your openness.
Letting others get close to us, takes time, we need to know they are genuine and be there for us too.
Thank youuu so much for all your suggestions I will try to say all thisss !! Tysmm for helping mww and taking out your time to reply reaally it means a lottt 🥹🤎
@cutegrapes Happy to be a friendly ear :)
Thankkk youuuuu🥹🤎 it really means a lottt
@scrabbleBrain
@cutegrapes
I hear you my dear friend ,and it totally makes sense ,just how much you want to offer comfort and love shows how kind you're, and even attempts count and matter more than you think ,i struggle with the same thing kinda ,I think it comes from fear of being hurt like you said or fear of messing up ,being too much ,or too little ,maybe because we were taught at a young age that relationships are conditional.
I feel youu , you're not alone in this ,and your presence matters more than you think ,at least in my experience, you comforted me at a time where I was falling apart and I'll never forget it.
We'll slowly learn ,hopefully ,and we'll get there *huggggggggggggies* thank uuu for being my friend 💓💓🫂
Thank youuuu so muchhhh 😭🫂..that's so truee that fear that I may say the wrong things..or I will be too muchhh or mess upp..I m sry u feel the same wayyy 🫂
Andddd u should say the same thing abouttt u tooooo...bcz u areeee my friendddd boba 🥹🤎 anytime I m glad I was able to comfort u
We willl !! Huggggssss 🫂 i cam say the same thing forrr u 🤎🤎🫂
@cutegrapes
Yeah ,sometimes it can be very overwhelming ,but I am sure others might struggle with the same thing ,and also when we comfort someone ,or try to ,they receive our loving feelings and I believe that's the most important thing
I am so glad we are friendssss , you're one of the sweetest people ever! We'll get through this and hopefully all those bad things will become memories we laugh at 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂💓💓💓
@bubblePerson5643
That's soo true really...and yes when we care about someone I think they can see our love and care even when we can't say the right words
Mee alsoooo!!..I can say the same for u u are just like ur namee cutee bubble personnn (friendly)...I alsooooo hope the same thinggg 🫂💓
@cutegrapes
And you too are just like your name! Cutie! You're a lovely soul really ,someone very caring in a world where people like that are rare ,be proud of yourself, you're a gem 💓💓
Thankk youuuu so muchhh boba 😭🤌🏻
Damm that's my exact description as well... For the first time in life I found someone resonating with me..
@Baner
you are not alone!
@cutegrapes sweetheart, you aint bad for feeling this way. i'm also on the same boat as you are. and that getting attached too quickly part? yeah, that's so me...
and the other thing is, i'm learning to validate the other person's feelings when they are sharing. first, i listen to all that they have to say, try to understand, and think of it as if i were in their shoes, and likewise. it actually worked for me a few times!
apologies in advance if i dont make sense. fyi im still in the learning phase as well.
wishing you the best of luck!
@enthusiasticHouse3272
We are together in thisss 🫂
It does make complete sense really and thank youu gorr telling me this I will try to do the samew
Thank youuuu!! Wish u best luckkk too💓
I m so.u feel the same wayy.. but we are together in thisss 🫂
@Baner
I genuinely understand exactly how you're feeling rn
Thank you and i m sry u can understand thoo i meann it's really hard sometimes 🫂
@decisivePond247
