Struggling with loving
The last time I’ve had a crush on someone or even a hint of love towards someone was a long time ago. Now no matter how pretty someone is or how kind someone is, I don’t feel attracted at all. It’s as if I lost all sense of love. It really sucks because I want a love life too. But no matter what, I always hyper analyze others and never felt love towards another. Is it only me that is this way? It’s like I want love but can’t even love another.
I feel a bit like this, but it’s more like I’m wary and scared because of past abuse.
Yeah I feel somewhat same - not much attraction towards anyone even if I can appreciate good in them. I think attraction comes from hanging out together more but to get to that part both people have to give each other a chance (which hasnt happened in my case). However there is a celebrity I have had a huge crush on for 20 yrs now and still going lol so that at least makes me feel I still got my hormones and emotions working somewhat rightly ...
I’ve been single since 2019 and I hate it. I’m also LGBTQ so dating is harder for me.
@JanusPi I am a girl and yeah same here! You know what, I spent extreme emotional energy into loving a boy who is neither willing nor able to reciprocate the ocean of love that I have for him. It's been almost 11 years since I have loved him. 11 years almost of hurt. Even though I know I should move on, I don't have the energy to fall in love again, I am too exhausted. Just so done. Blank, anhedonic and empty. Unrequited love sucks that too when I is as intense as mine.
Do u think if u could go back in time, you’d try to stop yourself from loving this boy? Just wondering what you’d do differently because I think I might currently be in a similar situation.
@JanusPi My problem's pretty much the opposite - I'm attracted to certain women, but none are attracted to me.
