Today We Endured Abuse…

TW - abusive driving

Today my mom and I endured verbal abuse and more, and it really triggered, scared, terrified us both…

A friend (more like acquaintance) offered to take us to a beloved coffee shop. She knew my mom’s been feeling very nauseous and dizzy (see my other post). First she moved the steering wheel back and forth and shook the car around (not a good or kind idea when your passenger is nauseous and dizzy!), and then she LAID on the gas and sped down the freeway, laughing and citing that she wasn’t used to her new car yet.

Then, she told my mom off about giving her directions to the coffee shop (which she had wanted).

After that, my mom wanted the woman to stop using her phone while driving (we were on the freeway). She suddenly started yelling at my mom. Not just telling her off. Yelling. With intense anger. With an “IS THAT CLEAR????” at the end. It was absolutely terrifying and my mom and I both froze, scared. We were trapped in the car (the woman was driving), we were on the freeway, and we couldn’t leave. I was so scared… My mom was scared the woman was going to hit her.

And then very soon after that, she suddenly switched back to a congenial personality. It was so confusing and it made no sense… It was very Jekyll and Hyde behavior.

This isn’t the first time she’s treated us badly, and been overbearing, but this was WAY worse than before. I haven’t been this terrified by someone in a long time.

When my mom and I finally got dropped off at home, we talked about it and then immediately blocked her. Her abusive behavior was scary and uncalled for, and boundaries need to be set.

Both Mom and I were very triggered and afraid. We’ve both been abused in multiple ways in the past, and this behavior brought back memories we didn’t want to remember.

Thanks for listening… I needed to write this down. When you tell someone your struggles, the act of telling someone, or writing it down, takes away some of its power. <3