Update on my "I hate my home & I feel stuck" rant
My living situation isn't getting any better actually I think it's getting worse my mom hasn't paid the trash bill because my mom rather pay for weed and cigarettes than necessities so now there's trash bags piling up in the back porch and it smells. I wish I could pay for the necessities but I don't have a job and people still don't want to hire me.
I've been distancing myself from my mom so there wouldn't be any arguments but I think the lack of socialization and plus the living situation I'm in is starting to make me depressed I just can't believe how incompetent my mom is
@KaiUwU2002
I'm really sorry you find yourself in such a difficult and unsupportive situation.
And that your mother prioritises the wrong things đź©·
snake eating its own tail
no change with cold comforts plus security or change with uncertainty plus questionable security
applies to both people involved
I hope this doesn't sound rude but what do you mean by "both people involved?" I don't understand
@KaiUwU2002
dont know the other persons side or what has led to current times but maybe they need healing too and the outward display albeit not considered healthy is the communication
humans can tend to get messed up when life is messed up but maybe if we could go beyond those predefined natures we could find different life alternatives than getting messed up when life does such as falling back on each other
stopping the snake from eating its own tail while yes difficult and maybe we never really succeed in it maybe but the efforts involved can flavor life in a more healthy way
I try giving my mom communication for years but it always leads to the same outcome her getting defensive, her saying things to make me feel bad so I start getting stressed and apologizing and no change happening.
I don't know how much longer I can take this I want to be there for her and help her but she has to be willing to help herself for the better too. She feels so much like a loss cause and I see why her side and my dad's side of the family burned their bridges on her.
Get government benefits and apply for supportive housing.
How do I do that?
@KaiUwU2002 I hope you find a way out of this situation. Maybe tell your teachers or the local authrity or even relatives who are better off. Maybe they can give you better opportunities than it is with your mom.Â
Keep us on the loop!
That’s really rough, it sounds like you’re in a tough situation and doing your best to soldier through. Adult life comes with many different challenges that never shrink but grow in complexity and become more expensive and less manageable over time. It sounds like your mom is going through some things to, and you may not be able to see them because she’s trying to protect both your innocence and her dignity. It’s not easy being a single parent, the position is stressful and thankless. Try putting yourself in your mother’s shoes and see things from her perspective. It sounds like both of you need grace right now.
Would you be willing to have me listen to what you can share. Sometimes allowing yourself be expressive releases the stress and invite understanding which is a vital coping mechanism. I will be happy to help. Is there a reason why you won't get hired?
I live in a small town so there's not a lot of opportunities and on top of that I am autistic and a lot of companies turn me down because of that