Ways we our up walls
Anyone ever hear the phrase that someone is “putting walls up?” I never considered myself as someone who does this. But I have recently learned a way that I do. For me it starts with the belief that I cannot be accepted as myself so my wall is presenting people with me plus a role I can provide. For example to my friends I’m not just me. I’m their counselor, hero, helper, fill in the blank. If I don’t do this I am filled with awful fear. Any one else experience this? If so how did you face the fear of just presenting just you to others?
@Htebazile92
It is exhausting to pretend and be usually what we think friends want..
being ourselves frees us to find real friends who accept us as is.
That is a very interesting take. I don’t think I saw providing a role for someone or people pleasing as pretending but there definitely are elements of that there. Thanks for your perspective!
@Htebazile92
