Why Errors Are Noticed, But Efforts Are Ignored ???
It's Funny how pple zoom in on one mistake like it defines the whole story… but scroll past a hundred silent efforts like they never existed
We’re not AI?? We’re human...!! We try, we learn, we grow but somehow, only the flaws get attention.
n honestly… it hurts me. it tears me up everytime they do this
It hurts me, when people blame me for the smallest things, while all the times I got it right are ignored like they meant nothing.
I’m not asking for perfection to be praised. i accept that I'm full of flaws but Just… i don’t them to make my mistakes louder than my efforts. but then a simple supporting word can cheer me up to do my best next time :)
Something I just learned to tell myself when someone doubts me or focuses on my errors not my success and it’s been working! I say it and move on and forget why others even said to me!
I say it to myself or even out loud or by text
Simply state: your doubts are not my truth!
@purpleField1512
Wow, that's honestly beautiful... Glad you have this mindset 😊.
For me, i struggle to handle this honestly... i try my best not to believe or listen to 'em. but in the day of the day... i failed at it. as i have to go through this every other day... I have to go through several incidents like this in day. so... when ignored or just tried not listen just a pain n made my fall even more.
But I'm not giving up, I'm moving forward towards my goal, so that I can be proud of myself n have reason why i should ignore them, to show what is my real worth ❤️.
Thank you for sharing this, i honestly loved it. 💞
Hugs 🤗
I hope my mindset helped a little bit and glad you loved it! I won’t add my age here LOL but I can tell you it took me awhile to realize it and embrace it as my own advice to myself and at times out loud to whomever is putting their doubts onto me! ❤️🔥🙏😎
@purpleField1512
Aww, you're amazing 😊 *Hugs*
You are also an amazing being 🥰🙏 hugs to you!
I totally understand what you mean by scrolling past all the good you have done to focus on a mistake or flaw! Feels so hurtful and unfair, if you lookup narcissistic behavior that is one of the control features of that personality!
Especially if you are happy, the control is the ability to bring you back down!
I hope you find ways to tell yourself you are human and nobody is perfect! Some of the most successful business people out there say their failures taught them how to succeed! They had to look past failure at the end goal and keep shooting for that and one day BOOM! Success!
Gates, Jobs, Buffett to name a few!
@purpleField1512
Wow, that's a reminder i needed after so far...!! Yeah, I'm just trying not to listen or carry their words within me even tho it hurts or upset me at the time. I'm more grounded than before thankfully n i agree with what all u said... That's very true ❤️. You really got me motivated 😊, thank you so much for u support, once agn.. you're amazing buddy, thanks to u to bring light to someone's heart here 😊❤️
Well, it's almost a social cue, people tend to be selfish in even the slightest details, we grew up in a society that appreciates results and personal growths over community and the well being of others around us, as hard as it sounds, if someone can mock you for even the slightest mistake, they'll do, and if they're selfish enough to act like that, they don't even deserve you bothering about it, some people are just leeches that grow out of your own suffering, if you're not comfortable ignoring the issue, then prove them wrong, the best satisfactions and recognitions come from a failure/humilliation in the first place.
