Why was I so forgiving?
Just a bit of context, my girlfriend broke up with me and realized how much I forgave her. I always took responsiblity for anything that happened and forgave her for everything. But the thing is, I am not this forgiving of a person to others. I don't hold grudges but i don't forget. Almost like a balance sheet. but with her I just didn't care. I never had the heart to be hard on her and I never broke up with her is because I would have never forgiven myself for breaking that girl's heart. So I just let her break mine. Even if she shattered my heart into dust, I would apologize for making a mess on her hands. Why did i make such a big exception for her? Was it just because of love?
You loved her. And you saw the best in her despite what she was as a person. Your question of was it just bcs of love is valid. But love is the strongest emotions of all. The forgiving nature that you had for her was because you deeply loved her and maybe hoped for a happy future! Now just forgive yourself for being so forgiving… it takes time and you’ll get there. Sending you strength and light✨
@purpleBeechwood3804
When in love and often in beginning stages of relationship... we think easy forgiving will smooth things over and keep things going.
In the long run though many get resentful for all the times we apologized for things that were their issues. While i am sure you are upset and sad if relationship is over ... you can see that in future relationships ...mutual respect and not wanting a person to expect you to forgive anything and everything.
Maybe it's because u think she is someone that needs protection. I know someone that always act like a child and I also never want to be harsh on her. But I am just speaking from my experience, I do not want to offend ur ex.
Where there is love there is confusion and choices we never imagined we would make. For the better or the detriment at times. You loved wholly and deeply.