new environment, no friends
i recently moved to a new university and today's our first day of classes, and all we did was an orientation. i badly wanted to talk to my block/classmates so bad but i just couldnt. my close friend from my past school (who also moved into this university) was just so jolly; i saw her *** stories and she was all about having fun. she even was able to eat out with her classmates. ugh i want to be close to my classmates so bad. i did try and chat or communicate with them but i still feel like an outcast. idk how ppl like my friend manage to get close to a group of ppl immediately. i don't want to become a loner like how i was during my first year in highschool 😪
@decisiveSpruce7079
Dear Beloved,
A new environment can feel lonely, especially when we feel that everybody else is quickly making friends around us. Please do not judge yourself or your ability to make friends. Your classmates may be quicker at initiating conversations, but you may need your own time, and that is completely okay.
Instead of trying to become part of a large group immediately, focus on getting to know one person at a time. Sit with someone before class and start simple conversations, such as, “Where did you go to school?” or “How are you liking it here?” Then say hello again the next day. Small interactions can help build a connection.
Do not wait until you feel confident to approach people. Talk to one person at a time. Your first conversations might feel forced, but they can be the beginning of a connection.
Give yourself many days, not just one, to make friends. Do not compare your speed of making friends with others. You are a different individual. Your qualities are different from theirs. Join relevant communities, study with a classmate, or have meals with your classmates. Make an effort to build connections.
Do not sit alone. Instead, try sitting where a group of people is sitting. Join them in their activities and conversations. You may have to push yourself a little initially, but gradually they will begin to recognize you.
Helping others whenever you can and supporting them when they need help can also help you build closer connections. Try to help people whenever you can. Whenever they need help, they may reach out to you, and gradually you may develop deeper friendships.