sometimes I feel like I'm selfish for choosing myself
but I do feel happier when I'm being kind to myself, then I feel bad if I remember about those I left behind. Why is it so hard to practice self compassion? I know the theory, still not easy for me to do it.
++ life is about acceptance and moving on, right? :(
@hopefulencounter
Yes it is. It's not an easy thing to do, but you have to move on sometimes. Doesn't mean you have to leave your friends necessarily, but often means letting them fend for themselves more often. I have a friend who is disabled and unable to work, but having a hard time getting and keeping disability payments. I supported him significantly, financially for about 8 years. I knew it from the start, but finally realized I can't do that anymore with the hording problem he also has. His priorities on how money got spent were really off at times. Spending money on paying storage bills opposed to the mortgage on the house he lived in. There finally came a point where I realized it was like giving money to a drug addict, not actually helping him out and hurting myself in the process. I'm still good friends with him and care about him, but I refuse to provide anything more then a free lunch when I come over to visit.
@Krank hello thank you for sharing your point of view with me, it really helped me to understand the need to move on better than before. 🧡💖
@hopefulencounter self compassion is not easy, but good for you you should feel good when you do things for yourself 💖 the key to life is happiness 💖 so don't feel guilty for the ones left behind feel happy that they are part of your past 💖 gives you a giant tiny hug 💗
@Tinywhisper11 thank you 💖🧡 🥺🙏 I understand it more now.. it's just so peaceful that I don't think of going back at all
If you don’t love yourself then you can’t honestly love someone else. So you’re off to a good start. Now you just have to move forward with expanding your life one step at a time.
@ReservedHickory86 thank you for telling me this 🧡🌻
@hopefulencountern yes I understand how that can be when you are conditioned to something for so long you kinda get use to it , and then when you decide to break that habit & cycle it can feel a little different you may still feel guilt such as saying no , setting boundaries that is normal by the way . But I love to hear how you are stepping into your power and knowing your worth , setting boundaries and choosing you is important it's mandatory your peace and well being is always first choice I'm proud of you for taking that step and in due time you will fell 100% with the boundaries you setting its like you have step out of your uncomfortable into your comfort zone . 🌺
@Empathniyah aww thank you so much for telling me this, your words really sound comforting.. 🥹🙏💖🧡 thank you! You're correct, I must choose myself. I feel so much better when I'm away/taking a break, maybe it's because I've missed this peace so much.
@hopefulencounter your very welcome yes it does feel good when we are at peace within ourselves and even removing the people and things that cause us not to feel good and more thing if you ever feel stuck say to yourself do I want to go backwards to how I use to feel ? or continue to push forward You Got this & You Matter .😊 🌺
@Empathniyah yes actually that's what I've been thinking about too.. If I go back, I will surely feel anxious, happy but there'll be anxious feeling .. no peace 😟
@hopefulencounter exactly I feel that is always a good reminder to think on like if I go backwards it will kept me in a still and stuck place & I'm pretty sure you tired of being sick tired you deserve to feel happy , free and peaceful .
@Empathniyah yes, the problem is I can't seem to say goodbye to this thing. Like, if one day I left, maybe it'd be without saying anything..
@hopefulencounter
It’s like there’s a constant tug-of-war between taking care of ourselves and worrying about those around us. But recognizing that kindness to yourself is actually a strength, not a weakness, can help shift that balance.
@adorableGrace87 🥹🙏🧡 you're right! It's a constant tug of war with myself ..but lately I've realized I must be kinder with myself to get my peace. Thank you for telling me your opinion on this, really comforting!
@hopefulencounter
of course anytime, you are most welcome 🤗
@hopefulencounter
Self compassion and self care is not selfish.
Some people IMO frame it that way by those who want others to care for them.
I too used to feel bad about those I left behind but in the end many of those did not or would not step up to care for themselves or appreciate the effort or work I did putting them first.
@toughTiger6481 thank you for your kind words , I know the only way for myself to feel peaceful and happy again is by leaving that.. because if I go back I'll end up feeling anxious again. Still trying to let go after so long :"
@hopefulencounter
What You Need to Hear Right Now
Let me speak to your soul:
You are not too broken.
You are not too sensitive.
You are not too much.
You are enough, even when the pain is loud.
Even when nobody claps for your survival.
Even when you feel invisible — you still matter.
Your Assignment: Release & Replace
Take your journal and write:
RELEASE:
I release the lies I’ve believed about myself.
I release the pain that keeps following me.
I release the memories that try to define me.
REPLACE:
I am safe.
I am healing.
I am worthy of love that doesn’t hurt.
I am not my past.
I am not alone.
You can start your healing journey today ✨️
https://selar.com/showlove/angelmavvy
Healing Where Love Begins With You.”Thank you, beautiful soul 💜
Your healing has just begun and I’m so honored to walk this path with you.
Once you get access to this course… you chose yourself.
Expect an email soon with your access and your first personal love letter from me.
Until then, breathe deep. You are safe here. You are seen. You are not alone.
With all my heart,
Angelmavvy.
@hopefulencounter
What You Need to Hear Right Now
Let me speak to your soul:
You are not too broken.
You are not too sensitive.
You are not too much.
You are enough, even when the pain is loud.
Even when nobody claps for your survival.
Even when you feel invisible — you still matter.
Your Assignment: Release & Replace
Take your journal and write:
RELEASE:
I release the lies I’ve believed about myself.
I release the pain that keeps following me.
I release the memories that try to define me.
REPLACE:
I am safe.
I am healing.
I am worthy of love that doesn’t hurt.
I am not my past.
I am not alone.
You can start your healing journey today ✨️
https://selar.com/showlove/angelmavvy
Healing Where Love Begins With You.”Thank you, beautiful soul 💜
Your healing has just begun and I’m so honored to walk this path with you.
Once you get access to this course… you chose yourself.
Expect an email soon with your access and your first personal love letter from me.
Until then, breathe deep. You are safe here. You are seen. You are not alone.
With all my heart,
Angelmavvy.
@Angelmavvy thank you 🧡🥹 your words really kind and comforting 🙏 I'm trying to let go of whats causing my anxious feeling, but it's so difficult because I still like it but I know I'll just feel anxious again if I go back..
@hopefulencounter
Practicing self compassion can be hard especially when you face the guilt of leaving behind the old ways. I'm glad you're setting boundaries and moving on with your life the way you desire and deserve. Whenever your past confronts you, remember that it is gone for the better. You're here because you manifested this, the universe manifested this for you.
As I was told in my day treatment program out of not selfish to leave people who either hurt us or are toxic. Every single person should see ourselves as being first and noddy important before anyone else. It’s the first step in self love them everyone who comes after us can complement what we already have in ourselves.
